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[–] asherbasher 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for this one. Now that I know that I have ADHD I am 100% certain that my mother is as well. Like, as an adult seeing her acting on her rejection sensitivity - even before I knew what it was - really helped med reflect on my own rejection sensitivity. My mother suffers from this in a severe way. I've explained to her what Rejection Sensitivity Disorder is, so she knows about it. I'll probably take this image and translate on top of it, then share it to her. Her English is not her best.

[–] asherbasher 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We really got into why I mask after that comment. She asked me why and when I felt the need to be so convincing. The answer was that I've always felt that way. I've always felt wrong and I didn't want people to know it. But she also made me realize that I need to be aware of my own needs, and that I can't try to please everyone on the cost of my own mental health. I don't know. I guess it was a small comment that led us down a path as to why I felt the need to "pass as normal". But not only to pass as normal, but also how I set aside my own personal needs aside in order to appease everybody else.

[–] asherbasher 3 points 1 year ago

We actually got into more of the talking of masking, and her asking me where I think this started since it seems like I am so good at it. Other than that one comment, she actually made me feel really comfortable. I think I'll try to bring this up in my next session and see how she reacts. If she reacts negatively towards me, then I'll definitely look for a new psychologist.

[–] asherbasher 1 points 1 year ago

I get where you're coming from, but as someone who enjoys looking at Riker with the beard, I do prefer the trope of "Growing the Beard".

[–] asherbasher 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah, the friend that had convinced herself, that the baby was their's. That was both creepy and sad.

[–] asherbasher 1 points 1 year ago

Thank you for sharing him with us!

[–] asherbasher 1 points 1 year ago

One month and twelve days. I can definitely wait! No problem at all!

[–] asherbasher 22 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Fun fact: there's a trope called "Growing the Beard", which is the opposite to "Jumping the Shark" wherein there is a dramatic difference between "before and after" through a series run. The trope got its name from Star Trek: NTG after Commander Riker grew out his beard which coincided with a significant improvement of the show, with an increase in quality and the show growing into its own identity.

[–] asherbasher 3 points 1 year ago

Yes, this is a very important picture and we do appreciate you sharing it. Thank you.

[–] asherbasher 1 points 1 year ago

I'm trying to claw my way out of a reading slump, so I went for a little stroll in the library. Went home with The Cat Who Saved Books by Sosuke Natsukawa and A Monster Calls by Patrick Ness. I needed something not too overwhelming.

I've started on The Cat Who Saved Books. It's about a high school kid who has inherited his grandfather's bookshop, which he is then planning to sell. A cat shows up and demands his help with saving some books that are trapped.

To be honest, I didn't know what the books were about when I picked them up, so I can't say much about A Monster Calls at this moment. I've heard good things about the author and I digged the illustrations.

[–] asherbasher 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

The one with the mother who had an Entitled Mom tried to grab her baby, because her Entitled Kid wanted to hold her baby was insane. That escalated so quickly!

[–] asherbasher 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I went to a psychiatrist due to me suspecting that I have PMDD. From that first session, psychiatrist asked me to fill out a test for ADHD. That was August or last year. My mental health was absolutely horrible and I might have a week tops where I'd feel OK. Now I'm taking birth control continuesly with no breaks which has done wonders for my mental health. Apparently, PMDD is common to find in menstruating people who live with ADHD or are on the Autism spectrum.

Other than getting my mental health out of the dark circle of severe depression, the ADHD meds has helped a lot with my everyday life. I'm not as exhausted as I used to be now that my brain isn't running on overdrive, and the executive dysfunction isn't looming over me, stressing me out.

We're also now certain that my mother has ADHD. I recently explained Rejection Sensitivity Disorder (I know from experience she suffers from this) and she was shocked!

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