If you truly consider yourself a patriot, you will do what you can to help the people who will actually be in danger during this administration. Find orgs near you that help the marginalized and underrepresented. Volunteer. Educate others. Do whatever you are able to.
This is not the time to retreat. This is a time for action.
Everyone had a least 9 years to figure out who Trump is. I'd be more lenient if it was a matter of months. But it was almost a decade since he first ran.
I know there are a lot of factors working against people (capitalism, propaganda, groupthink) but after all that time, I think they should own their decision.
So yes, I blame them. The man talked about injecting bleach for chist's sakes. And that was all over the news while many people were home and could pay attention if they wanted to.