ShaggyDemiurge

Btw, bigotry does not need to be conscious or intentional or malicious to be real and cause harm, and you can be transphobic even when you're not trying to or believe you're are not

I don't really understand why people do it. Not like "they're doing it because they are depressed and feel bad", I had depression myself but never had a call to injure myself. I hate pain, and doing something painful to myself while I'm already feeling bad doesn't really sound appealing. So I don't quite get what self-harm gives people so they keep doing it.

Like, is it a way to "ground" yourself and stop dissociating, or is it "just to feel anything at all", or as a "punishment", or something else?

When I was on reddit, "Hot" sorting (of both main page and subreddits) usually was more than enough to see ones that are new and popular at the same time

This doesn't happen on Lemmy. Both "Hot" and "Active" seem to be biased towards old upvoted posts over new ones a bit too much, for me first page is always full of 3-4 day old posts

I know there's "Hide read posts" setting, but I don't think it's a good solution. First, it seems like you have to interact with post in some way for it to be considered read, be it open it or upvote it, you can't just "haha meme funny" or "this post is not interesting to me" and scroll past it. Also, I still would like to see read posts, so I could see if there's some new conversation going, or if I want to see it again for some reason (like maybe I came up with a witty joke to make in thread six hours after reading it)

So, what sorting do you use, and does it solve the problem for you - if it is a problem for you in the first place?