QuillanFae

Had my last one of these only a few nights ago. I'm glad you posted.

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Oh and indeed we will be ubering, if only because our time there is so limited and I don't wanna waste it travelling between places of interest. Gotta sit down and make a simplified chart of crime stats comparing Detroit and Sydney or something.

Kinda figured that most violent conflict starts with some kind of instigation. Don't fight people and they won't fight you. What a concept! Thanks for your input.

Love this, cheers. Bookmarked for the next irritating conversation with an uninformed busy body.

Yeah, I'm truly not expecting anything I would expect from cities here other than supermarkets that stay open after sunset. Made this post in the spirit of due diligence in case I'm being overly optimistic, but mainly to compile some retorts to the things my wife keeps hearing that damn near convinced her to call this off.

Thanks for the recommendations! The Christmas market wasn't on our radar at all, but I'm keeping it on mine.

Thank you! I mean, there are "dangerous areas" where I live too, where the reality is you have maybe a one in a million chance of something awful happening, as opposed to the one in two million you're used to. When I became an independent teen and actually spent time in all these areas my parents had described so derisively, it all just boiled down to lower median income, higher proportion of disadvantaged people drawn to cheaper housing, and a greater chance that someone's going to ask you for spare change.

My wife's extended family lives in Canton, so I think it's fair to say they do live in Detroit, but also that their opinions of downtown are informed by something they heard. Maybe "that one thing" they heard happened years ago. Who knows.

I'm actually really glad we're working Detroit into this trip too, and it's partly because I want to see first hand how distorted everyone's perception here is. Everyone here seems to have an opinion on this trip, and they all make that 😬 face about Detroit. Definitely keen to hit up the museums, art institute, and whatever else we can before jetting out.

Well I'd much rather be shot than stabbed, given the choice, I suppose.

I'm glad we're talking about this.

Panel #7: Regret

"Why did I take so long to get here?"

I accepted the terms, signed away all of my privacy, and completed a whole questionnaire regarding my goals for using the app, my level of knowledge about my menstrual cycle, regularity of my periods, symptoms I experience before and during my periods, and other conditions I have which impact my sexual health.

Only after the app had harvested all of that from me did it reveal that a subscription is required, and the only way to trial it is to commit to payment when the 14–day trial period ends. Like all "free" trials, I can "cancel any time", and like all "free" trials, it's my job to remember to cancel it before it automatically charges my card, so fuck you very much and uninstall.

Having already agreed to my sexual health data being sent to "people you can trust because we just want the best outcome for you we promise", I would have actually been fine going the whole way and trialling it if there were no strings attached, because it did seem to be a lot more about sexual health generally than just tracking periods.

When it asked for my goals, I included "better orgasms" and "sexual intimacy". It asked for my current level of sexual activity and something about my masturbation habits.

When it asked about my other conditions, it provided options for PCOS and Endometriosis. I was genuinely curious at this point. I was basically entering the responses my wife would give, and right now we're strategizing ways to alleviate PCOS–related pain. Data driven insights may have been genuinely useful. Could have persuaded us to subscribe, at least for a couple of months, had the trial showed promise. Guess we'll never know.

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