Queen___Bee

joined 1 year ago
[–] Queen___Bee 4 points 3 weeks ago

Well, that took a turn. Sorry to hear that! I love how picking/making a new together is becoming slightly more common that in earlier decades.

[–] Queen___Bee 8 points 1 month ago

Right?! Who is cutting onions, damnit. Another example of looking for the helpers, per Mr. Rogers.

[–] Queen___Bee 7 points 1 month ago

Tell me about it. The discipline it takes to not consume something the general public has been consuming as the norm is a struggle sometimes, but tasting the flavors I otherwise wouldn't notice from something not deathly sweetened is a plus. As well as better teeth. My parents also restricted sweet drinks to family trips and parties growing up, and I don't think I can thank them enough.

[–] Queen___Bee 5 points 1 month ago

Yep, racists are going to be racist.

[–] Queen___Bee 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Increasing one's credit [score] is helpful for when citizens want to make large purchases/transactions, such as getting a homeowner's loan and car, in the US. Having lower credit is an indicator to banks that one is not "trustworthy" with their (bank's) money. And with property prices soaring and most salaries stuck in the 60s (I may be exaggerating a little, haven't checked exact numbers lately), it's hard not to NEED a loan for those. Direct debit is nice to have, but there are advantages to credit cards if the user is wise with their money/credit knowledgeable. It's systemic.

[–] Queen___Bee 17 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Back when I was using reddit, I found Uplifting News to be a helpful source of positive information. Some of it can be reminders of our boring dystopia, like students helping another by starting a laundry program at the school, but it's something. Here is the lemmy version.

[–] Queen___Bee 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I feel like religion/conservatism plays a role in this mindset. There's a lot of pride in self-sacrifice and at least appearing "strong" in the face of adversity even if it's regarding your health. Not that I agree with it at all. I'm all for unlimited such days and self-care.

[–] Queen___Bee 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I saw it as an eyesore in contrast to the dark background. Plus, it just looked strange/random. No significant reason.

[–] Queen___Bee 2 points 4 months ago

Bamboo sticks or a small trellis sounds smart. I'll keep in mind to give it a taste of the outdoors before permanently moving it out there if I do. Much appreciated!

[–] Queen___Bee 1 points 4 months ago

Thanks for the feedback. The last time I repotted it was sometime early last year, and I don't know how frequent I should be doing that. Once the plant becomes twice as tall as the pot or taller?

I didn't think about pruning being helpful for strengthening roots, so I'll give that a shot.

So far the plant gets plenty of light. The window is north facing so it's more indirect light, but plenty of light gets through as far as I can tell. I tried moving it, but maybe I'm doing that wrong. Do I keep it in the moved position for several days, a couple weeks, or until I notice the branches aren't leaning as much and then move it again?

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Plant Suggestions (lemmy.world)
submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by Queen___Bee to c/gardening
 

Hello,

I've had this plant for 4 years now, and I'm not sure what to do with it. The plant is a money tree, and the floral tape and wire there is to prevent the trunk from leaning too much. There is a spot outside to place it, but due to Florida weather I've been afraid of leaving it outside for fear of its pot getting flooded from rain. It is in a pot that has drainage holes, but that only helps so much.

Also, the trunk appears unsteady. When I pull it away from the window it's currently leaning against, it leans heavily to one side and I don't know if it will topple over or snap with a stiff breeze outside. Do I risk moving it outside, perhaps with more soil? If not, what other suggestions do you have? I live with cats who like to eat the leaves if they can access it, so keep that in mind. I don't want to trim/prune if I can help it, but it's about to outgrow the window at this point.

Without window support

Close-up in pot

[–] Queen___Bee 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

To explain in case you are serious, IMO I think they're meaning you can obviously articulate the point to which you came from where you originated class-wise, and explain in detail at that.

But the "sucker" aspect is to point out how, even if we can find a way, the "game" itself seems to lead many to devolve into an existential thought-process of 'what is the point,' when it's much harder now-a-days to get to ANY point of success like a couple of previous generations were able to (those in their 50s+). If a person still believes that "winning" at the game is still important, then they already lost. Or they're just a bit bitter and using a mocking tone... hard to interpret tone in text.

[–] Queen___Bee 6 points 5 months ago

Regardless of the source's background, the information she mentioned actually reflects current knowledge of how infants and older children develop. In order to develop emotion regulation skills, healthy attachment, and social skills, we do naturally look away from our caregiver and others doting on us as a way to self-regulate intense feelings.

In fact, many children can develop attachment and emotion regulation issues if caregivers aren't responsive and share compassion or empathize with a child's behavior (e.g. a baby becoming upset and crying if- when looking away- the caregiver instead tries to get its attention repeatedly and not giving the child a break.) That's why it's important to have some level of emotional intelligence to develop healthy attachments with kids and them with us.

For more information, you can look up attachment theory and theories on human development (Erikson, Piaget, etc.). This is also mentioned here.

Source: Therapist

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