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Cuuuuuuute! This pic goes hard. As in it makes me hard.

I've seen deep couches like that for sale. It's not that odd. Also, I don't find it shocking that a porn studio would have deeper couches for more room to roll around on lol.

Despite being with my wife for nearly half my life, I've never had penetrative sex. It was originally because my wife has severe anxiety about things going inside her, but to be honest there's some hesitancy from me now as well. I've gotten very used to how we have sex and it doesn't involve penetration.

We have a partner now and I think it's something that they'd be open to, but I'm actually pretty nervous about the whole thing.

My desires were always fairly unconventional but the way my wife's and my sex life has developed has really reinforced that. My wife is essentially 100% top at this point. They have no real interest in reciprocation. They're on the ace spectrum so their enjoyment is different. Every once in a blue moon they'll ask for something but it generally doesn't end with them orgasming. All of that to say my main contribution to my sex life has just been becoming enjoyable to watch. I'm usually very vocal and squirmy. I whimper, beg, plead, cry, scream, etc. lol.

It was somewhat validating that one of the first times the three of us had sex together our new partner said they loved what I was doing and that it was definitely turning them on. I felt a lot of pressure to reciprocate for my wife for so long because I didn't want to be one of those lazy partners who doesn't do anything, but that's sort of what my wife wants out of it. Letting go of that was difficult for me. So actually hearing from someone else tell me that what I'm doing is actually enjoyable meant a lot. Not that I ever doubted my wife, but, you know how things are. Like when a stranger compliments your outfit as opposed to someone you know well.

So, that would be the "confession". I'd never describe myself as a virgin, but I've definitely never had traditional sex.

My wife and I opened our marriage to a third a few months ago. They've been living with us temporarily while they look for an apartment in the area. We have threesomes pretty regularly. It's pretty amazing right now.

Like many people with ADHD my interests change every few weeks/months... I've been saying my technical muse left and my erotic muse has returned. I've began doing a few erotic roleplays online again. I got really into this hobby about a year ago but stopped around the time I got a job. (I had a lot of free time for a few months lol.) It's been fun!

I'm really trying to pace myself. I took on way too many partners last time. At times I had maybe a dozen going at once. I got caught in this loop where when I was done writing replies and I wanted to keep writing I'd look for new partners. Over time the hobby stopped being something fun and became an obligation I dreaded doing. So I stopped. I'm trying to avoid that this time. Only take on maybe three maximum at a time. If even.

This has been something I've been interested in and actually why I logged into this account today. I've gotten back into text erotic roleplay a little but the only places I could ever find enough people interested in this is on Discord servers and on Twitter. When I check the #nsfwrp hashtag on Mastodon I see a handful of posts from a handful of users, but it's not really at any sort of critical mass to be able to find folks (unless you and one of the few people doing it end up being a good match).

I don't think labels are terribly important for anything other than making communication easier. That said, watching and being humiliated definitely feels like what most would call cuckoldry. But by other definitions, you might not be called a cuckold because you're actively engaged in a sexual activity (regardless of context). Sometimes people use the term to just mean not being involved at all, like if your wife was cheating on you.

It doesn't really matter what you call yourself here. It's not like if what you are doing is technically cuckoldry if that suddenly means it is wrong. As long as everyone is consenting and enjoying themselves it doesn't matter.

All that said, I think most people would call this cuckoldry lol.

This conversation has popped back into my head. Over the last year a friend my wife met over the Internet and at conventions became a mutual cuddle buddy of ours and (with my wife) a romantic interest.

In hindsight I think your story helped nudge me towards it. Around October I began doing erotic roleplay with folks online. A lot of times I wanted to do more stuff with them, like JOI or just involve voice chat or anything but it was always outside of the limits.

After it was clear my wife was interested romantically in our mutual friend we brought back up the topic of poly and where our boundaries really are. To make a long story short, I just picked up my wife from the airport last night after her visiting this friend alone. I'm very happy for them. I've started doing more directly sexual things online with folks as opposed to just roleplay too. We're both as happy as can be still.

Also, your story about what your partner said after the first time reminded me of the first time I went on an online "date" with someone. My wife was actually excited for me and gushed over the details with me and afterwards, later that day she very specifically came and sat with me on the couch and cuddled. It's been a great experience overall. Just like with you, it's helped my wife feel less anxious about needing to be able to satisfy me. It's made the times she actually is in the mood better as well because she feels less stressed.

Physically, no. Emotionally getting gifts from people you didn't think were that close of friends really makes me happy though. Recently two friends have gotten me things. One of them got me something because I was sad and they're literally going through chemo. Like, girl, wtf, you did this for me while you're on chemo? I couldn't handle it. It broke me.

What about an erotic roleplay community?

Thank you so much for sharing this story. It's heart warming to hear success stories about open relationships. ❤️

Yes! More from a sake of transparency and excitement but yeah. The touching and cuddling was all very obvious but I wasn't sure they knew I gave them a little kiss on the head too. They thought it was cute and were happy for me.

Both of us (my wife and I) have always wanted to be more physical with friends and get very physically affectionate when we're drunk. We talk to each other about how we always want to do this sort of thing but even the risk of talking about it might make people too uncomfortable. It was really nice finally getting to do it. ❤️

Don't get too excited, it wasn't sex, but my wife and I cuddled with a friend. Earlier this year my wife cuddled with someone and for whatever reason it pissed me off. I did a lot of soul searching about it. They (my wife) told me it was totally platonic and I believe them but it just pissed me off. I finally came to the conclusion that I was jealous because nobody was cuddling with me lol. As simple as that.

So fast forward to a few weeks ago, we had a friend visit from out of town. We sort of joked about them being a third (see my other comment on this thread for details there lol) but decided against it. We did go back over our boundaries that we consider cheating. A friend of ours is being cheated on by her husband -- they're doing ethical non monogamy but he's breaking every rule they set forth so it's just cheating and gaslighting in my eyes. Anyways, because of that the two of us are like more talkative about our boundaries lately lol. So we say cuddles and even short kisses are fine, just don't grope or make out. This is when my wife was like making sure because earlier this year that happened with the other friend. My wife is great, I fucking love them.

Anyways, so I told them, I will definitely get upset if no one is cuddling with me while the two of them do if they do. But I sort of narrowed it down to that even if it's my wife like in the middle cuddling with me and them it won't make me jealous. I just need anyone cuddling with me.

We were going to go to a haunted house earlier in their stay (they are they/them pronouns) but I was getting over a cold. We had our big annual Halloween party coming. That's why they flew in. I really didn't want to get them sick and miserable during that. So I chose to stay home. I was really really looking forward to them clinging to me. Like we were talking about it. It's not some weird hope I just dreamt up that would happen. I was going to be in the front, my wife in the back, and they were going to be between us because they're so scared of haunted houses. They even said they would probably just cling to me the whole time lol.

But we did have a few moments where everything aligned. I don't want this post to just sound depressing lol. We were showing them to various gay bars in the area. We went to one and, shocking, but got drunk lol. All three of us get more physical when we're drunk. I know my wife and I are on the same page but I think they were to, but like we want to be more physical with friends but it's so tricky to do without seeming weird, especially once the relationship dynamic is set. Either way we all had a lot of contact with each other that night. The part that sticks out was when we were on the porch. I had a arm around each of their shoulders and they were holding hands. The nights a blur but I remember giving my wife a smooch on the head for some reason and our guest was right there so they got one too. The other moment was minor but we cuddled on our own porch. I sort of laid my arm out and both of them rested their heads on it like a pillow.

So there you have it. Some sort of naughty sort of not so naughty fun I had recently.