I feel like I'd need to test each in a dungeon environment to see which I'd prefer. One seems like it would be good if you're having trouble surviving and the other going even more glass cannon.
I always have trouble comparing potential upgrades so often just take both in dungeons and compare how they feel. The dummies won't always be good for that since you may want to see how you're surviving.
I think as men get older, we also tend to have less close friends than women. Or at least it sure seems to be that way for many. Saw it with my dad before we lost him last year. I see it with my brother and myself. It has brought me and my brother somewhat closer in that we text and talk more than we used to despite not living close and being pretty different personalizes.
I have a few close friends, but not male ones. I had to stop working at a young age and I feel that is when I stopped having a connection to any sort of male bonding.
But I agree, that it still seems unacceptable to open up, share feelings, and be vulnerable as a man. Probably why I have mostly had women as close friends most of my adult life.