JackiesFridge

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[–] JackiesFridge 31 points 4 months ago

Listening to other people, especially to women, is a skill. Don't spend silent time in a conversation waiting for your chance to speak or be smart or witty, stay quiet and really process what you're hearing. Imagine yourself in their situation. Accept that what they say is exactly how they feel.

The less time you spend talking, the more your conversational partner will tell you, and the more you will start to understand them, their lives, their goals, and their anxieties.

Knowing and understanding other peoples' experiences will help you not only make better decisions in your own life, but understand why other people act and think the way they do. You'll be less likely to snap-judge or make assumptions about others. And knowing more about your loved ones, co-workers, and neighbours will allow you to help them effectively if they need it.

And travel abroad as much as possible - listen to people from other countries and cultures. The human experience is wildly varied and endlessly fascinating.

[–] JackiesFridge 8 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Exactly - I started noticing prideful ignorance in the early 2010s. People around me made bad choices and would not be corrected. Their ignorance was just as valid as someone else's actual knowledge. That's when, strengthened by their own baseless pride, their shame disappeared. I'm not saying shame is good, but when it's the only thing keeping the deplorables in check, maybe a little of it helps.

It used to be that I'm general, horrible people realised they were horrible and at least went through the motions of being decent. They were like cockroaches scurrying for the shadows when you turned on the light. Now they're like a cat peeing on your bed - they pause long enough to lock eyes with you, then continue peeing.

Speaking optimistically, at least now we know exactly who they are.

[–] JackiesFridge 3 points 4 months ago

I'm sure that will get balanced out by all the "back the blue" conservatives lining up to support her, right?

.....right?

[–] JackiesFridge 4 points 4 months ago

It's great being the one nobody suspects! A few people thought I might have done the baby thing but I was also "finding" babies in my work area and was decent enough faking confusion and offering up more plausible co-workers as suspects. I like your idea of getting creative with the hours sign!

I forgot - I also did a squished spider prank. I drew a "crushed" spider in a random spot on a sheet of copy paper - two sloppy body segments and broken stick legs in the general squished spider arrangement. I used just a black felt-tipped pen and even added a tiny drop of water to the body to bleed the ink and make it look juicy. Once it dried, I slipped the paper face-down in the paper feed tray (so the print would be on the spider side) under two clean sheets of paper.

When my supervisor printed a spreadsheet, there it was on page 3. Sadly, she didn't have a huge reaction to that one, but I was still proud of myself.

[–] JackiesFridge 18 points 4 months ago (3 children)

You can get a bag of hundreds of tiny plastic babies on Amazon. I got a couple hundred of them and hid them everywhere in our office over the weekend when nobody was there (including in my own office).

It's been a couple years, people are still finding them, and nobody knows where they came from. A few people blamed one of the HR ladies and a co-worker who's addicted to buying tchotchkes on Temu. Hopefully none of my co-workers are on Lemmy, because I hope to refresh the baby population soon.

At my previous job I tied strings to a couple packages' worth of Dove individual chocolates and hung them from the ceiling of a co-worker's office when she was on holiday. She is short and loves chocolate, so they were tantalisingly out of reach. She liked how they looked and kept them there for a while, but eventually started pulling them down as she had chocolate cravings.

[–] JackiesFridge 1 points 4 months ago

"Now you can own every installment of the FlatOut franchise at a great low price!"

Except FlatOut: Head On for PSP. Guess I'll be hanging on to my UMD for a while longer.

[–] JackiesFridge 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

If you like twitchy reflex killers, two oldies-but-goodies from Terry Cavanaugh: Super Hexagon and VVVVVV.

Fun chiptune soundtracks, minimal graphics, and so much "I died already? Okay just ONE MORE try and then I really need to get some work done. ARGH - okay maybe ONE MORE try...." And when you finally succeed the dopamine is second to none.

[–] JackiesFridge 2 points 4 months ago

The Room series are great games.

[–] JackiesFridge 37 points 4 months ago (1 children)

My partner will ask me to do something. I will agree and since I'm usually doing something else at the time, I will continue to do that thing. Then 10 minutes later she gets huffy and does the thing. I've been trying to follow up her requests with "Now or when I'm finished?" but it depends how distracted I am whether or not I remember to ask.

[–] JackiesFridge 2 points 4 months ago
[–] JackiesFridge 1 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I think we're talking past each other but agreeing on the fundamentals. I'm approaching it from the angle of all government positions - absolutely if a progressive candidate has a chance to win any office from dog catcher to president, get them in so they can influence policy. But if they have no chance of winning, it's just damage control.

[–] JackiesFridge 1 points 4 months ago (4 children)

Didn't win? Dude's a congressman. He's in.

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