Irishred88

joined 1 year ago
[–] Irishred88 1 points 11 months ago

As far as I'm concerned it's been the most positively life changing event in my life that I absolutely cannot recommend anyone in my life to ever try.

My thoughts exactly. I treasure the experience but I could never recommend it to anyone as it hits everyone different. The best I could say to someone considering it is that you better be willing to confront yourself and your most difficult feelings.

I'm happy to hear that it was a net positive for you that's wonderful.

[–] Irishred88 9 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I've experienced LSD a few times and Mushrooms once. They are subtly different but I like to lean into the difficulty of the experience (when or if it starts to go that way). I feel like I'm being taught something important and doing so has been beneficial. To me it feels like a death and rebirth experience. I'm not foolish enough to think it's the answer to my problems, but boy does it ever shine a light on things! For me, they bring me back to being a kid, experiencing everything with wonder and curiosity. It's a breath of fresh air because I spent my young adult life trying to "grow up" by trying to fit into everyone else's expectation if what adult means. It made me realize I am individual as well as connected to the human race and I should enjoy and embrace that.

[–] Irishred88 34 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm fat and lazy and still love hiking. I'd pull on my hiking boots and join in a heartbeat.

[–] Irishred88 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fair enough I see this conversation is centered around first impressions and dating, but in a more general context it worries me. I see polarization in general as a net harm, because it divides us as people. Creates isolated points of view, otherizing, makes more people comfortable with perpetrating violence against the other because they are ignoring the other's humanity. I'm not equivocating, tolerance for intolerant opinions is not acceptable, but people can be ignorant for one reason or another, it doesn't make them evil.

Maybe I'm just in an echo chamber here and that's why my dissenting opinion is getting so much backlash, but I'll always advocate for nuance. I've met many with rather differing opinions, opinions which I'm categorically opposed to, but further conversation has revealed these people to be good on the whole. And non-violent to boot. We grew and understood each other from a conversation. I see so much bandwagoning on the Internet and all I want is for people to think a little more deeply about it. I get very emotional seeing people go, "Yeah! Fuck them for having that thought!" Because it reflects back at me a fear of being misunderstood, but I choose to speak up in hopes that it will bring about a more rational conversation.

[–] Irishred88 -2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

By all means if your gut tells you run, run. All I'm saying is that simply holding a single, opinion is not nearly enough information. What scares me to begin with is that ideas are so polarizing that it turns off our ability to think. Not everyone who holds an opinion is polarized though, some people may be on the fence and that may show in their attitude. A better metric for measuring someone's moral compass would be how they treat waiters or waitresses or how they respond to animals.

[–] Irishred88 0 points 1 year ago

And that's jumping to conclusions, why would having an interest in a podcast automatically make one make you believe that the other thinks of you as lesser. Adults should have adult conversations with each other.

[–] Irishred88 -4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (10 children)

It's an interesting study and I understand why people would feel that way, the only thing that rubs me the wrong way about these things is the human tendency to paint someone in a totally negative light once they see the "red flag." I feel the comments are evidence to that fact. If you know someone who hold offensive opinions you should actually ask them why they hold that opinion. People are enormously complex and their personalities or even morals cannot be boiled down to a small handful of extremely polarizing opinions.

[–] Irishred88 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Unrelated question: is it pronounced go-DOT as in polkadot, or go-DOH, like the actress Gal Gadot?

[–] Irishred88 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I want to thank you for providing this source. It's given me more to think about. While the information provided doesn't provide and definitive answer for my case. (How could it?) It does shine a light on issues that I personally experience. While I don't fully relate to symptoms like, poor impulse control and I don't fail to organize my day-to-day, what does stand out is the "persistence toward the future" as he points out early in the video. I have started many personal projects: I have bought a guitar because I want to perform music. I buy notebooks with the intention of writing a story. I bought expensive microphones with the plan to work on a YouTube channel. I have purchased courses for coding to start a fresh career. I have not achieved a large goal in anything like what I have just mentioned, not since obtaining my Bachelor's degree. I struggle with delayed gratification. This may or may not be ADHD or it could be another disorder.

Thank you again, it gives me s direction for seeking healing.

[–] Irishred88 6 points 1 year ago (7 children)

You know I've not been diagnosed but I relate to practically every post in this community and now it makes me wonder. No insurance to see a professional about it though.

[–] Irishred88 3 points 1 year ago

I am not arguing in favor of pacifism. I fully recognize the need to defend against harmful ideologies that infect people's minds with bad ideas. And if those who harbor bad ideas threaten violence then it may be necessary to react in kind. I accept that.

I'm simply saying that it matters what kind of language we use when we talk about it. Calling conservatives, or any opposing side perceived as a violent threat, subhuman creates the misconception that your own side could not ever be in the wrong. In so doing, it is possible that the we too could become infected with the bad idea that "All (insert opposing threat here) must die." I don't ever in my life time want to see anything like the Holocaust happen because people couldn't stop and think that at some point the killing needs to stop, because it's reached a point where we are no longer defending and only killing out of pure and base fear that the threat will rise up again. There is a point where self defense goes too far and gives rise to genocide. That possibility scares the hell out of me.

[–] Irishred88 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It does depend on the state you live in and the industry you work in. This is just my opinion, but I get the sense that a rather significant proportion of the US population regards any kind of assistance as synonymous with admitting defeat. It's not just unions, but for any kind of welfare too, people think they are leeches if they have to ask for help. But it's what our tax money is for; we pay a certain percentage of our income to support the unemployed and medically needy. We also have food programs and shelter to provide to the poor and homeless. Many of these programs don't get enough funding to provide enough for those in need because their use is stigmatized and importance minimized in our culture. The propaganda about the American dream is at least in part responsible, I think. When people speak against welfare programs you hear a lot of selfish talk, such as, "I work hard, why would I pay more taxes so that someone else can sit on their ass all day?" Or sometimes these heated discussions have a racist overtone; that immigrants will come and sponge off our welfare programs if we expand them. Whether that is true or not is irrelevant to me. Compassion for fellow citizens is the point for me and it's why I would support any assistance programs no matter the risk of whether bad actors will try to take advantage, that's the government's responsibility to provide a tidy set of policies so that help falls into the hands of those truly in need.

Sorry for the digression but I see the attitudes about welfare as linked to that about unions. Many citizens don't believe that unions would have their best interests in mind (as with government on welfare programs) and that to pay dues would be simply to line the pockets of the union reps at the top for little to no benefit. Some people also buy into the notion that they can rather earn the trust and loyalty of their employer by working hard and that working hard is a virtue in and of itself. If they mean working hard to achieve a personal goal, then I do see the virtue of that point of view, but otherwise, I disagree, work is simply a means of making an income to support life in society.

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