Well, there are several other examples on this thread where cis men aren't getting mad, so I feel your justification is a bit thin.
Why do so many men seem to feel personally attacked
Miscommunication. Why are you specifically asking them, when you don't want their opinion? As much as you can try to guide it, you can't control how people interpret your question.
Good idea! Let me know if you'd like any help.
The intro was poorly worded, like a malicious, intentional attack with plausible deniability, or unknowingly giving the opposite effect of what was intended. If course, I'll give them the benefit of the doubt, and assume the latter. This paragraph is guilty of the same.
Moving forward, this could be better addressed by laying out what the actual discussion points were before clarifying what they were not. Inclusion never starts with exclusion.
It's small things like this that makes life unnecessarily difficult, but if we can all recognise, call out, and forgive each moment like this, everyone benefits.
Hi, I'm not going to try saying my name. I'm an engineer who is now trying fiction writing as a hobby. I also do Gallifreyan on the side.
Yes, it helps to prep beforehand.
I still never succeed, but it's definetely helped push my personal best.