@yay, you might consider editing your original post to use more plain English. I can assume loli is a reference to lolita, but have no clue what the fuck shota is and I am not googling it. What I gathered from your post is "Anything under 18 that is real gets removed, but anything fake involving kids is fine." Based on your comment, it sounds like that isn't the case.
I don't agree with this guy's tone towards you, but I had the same misunderstanding after reading your post. The sidebar on lemmynsfw seems less ambiguous about under 18 content, but I don't know if that is new or from before the discussion.
Surprisingly no - usually they look like clones (as I suspect you have found). Base prompt was "a nude 25yo girl and her 40yo mother with saggy tits standing side by side, ((imperfect skin)), attractive pussy, eyes looking at camera". I have a preset I use with negatives for disfigurement and cgi and positives for good lighting.
My typical workflow is to do a smaller image (512x768) and expect them to look like clones. Then I inpaint the people separately with smaller adjustments. I just change the prompt to be "two 40yo women" but only update one of the two people using like 0.6 denoising strength.
Deliberate_V2 is my model for this. It is pretty awesome.
SD Upscale to make the higher resolution and use 8x_NMKD-Faces_160000_G as my upscaler.
Now if only I could figure out how to post the images directly vs a text post with an image embedded lol...