Right, I honestly couldn't define any cue really that I use. Maybe a change in my voice? But yeah, I often use it and the person I speak to often stares long and asks what.
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Right, not limited to that phrase
But like, there's so much implied understanding of this concept in our language, our idioms and cliches etc.
"You need to get some perspective" "I'd appreciate your perspective on this" "It would be good to hear an outside perspective" (I don't think I'm making these up, imagining their common turns of phrase)
I think I'm misunderstanding his point probably. He's not saying that allistics can't or that they aren't able to conceive the idea of it, rather he's saying that allistics often don't notice that we've made the perspective switch when we do?
We perhaps do it so often and so fluidly (or in my case probably with no more substantial a skip or conversational hiccup than is ordinary in my speech) ... -so often or so fluidly that others tend not to notice whatever we think we've used as a sufficient cue to designate the back-stage explanation.
Wait what? He's saying that allistics don't understand when I say "let me back up..." that I'm backing up to try to clarify the misunderstanding we're having?
I am lost too
~ English Native Speaker
God fuck, this is such a beautiful illustration of how well you understand each other! I hope the two of you enjoy to the fullest the time that you share!
Congratulations!
That first exception was the exact reason I dismissed my first Mental Health Professional's suspicion that I might be autistic. I could understand others' emotions and I could reliably recognize them. These are stereotypically weaknesses of individuals with autism and so clearly I must not be autistic.
Roughly five years after that question was raised I was finally evaluated at nearly thirty years old and diagnosed as Definitely Autistic.
As my (entirely layman) understanding of autism / Autism Spectrum Disorder has evolved I've come to realize that this set of DOZENS of symptoms that has collectively been associated with what is referred to as Autism cannot be independently relied on for the diagnosis of autism. The presence or absence of any single one of them, or even any particular group of them, isn't a reliable indicator of the verifiability of a diagnosis.
(It is my impression that-) Autism is a large umbrella that has been given to a vaguely associated set of symptoms which may or may not be truly related to each other but do appear together an apparently significant fraction of the time.
(It is therefore also my impression that-) The diagnosis of Autism by a mental health professional is little more than a legal loophole for the purposes of seeking professional and medical accomodations etc. I recognize that some mental health professionals have studied this far more than I have but I don't believe the common understanding of even the bleeding edge of medical knowledge is capable of determining the "healthier" side of what is referred to as the "Autism Spectrum".
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I was mostly sober when I began typing this comment but I think I lost the point I intended to make about halfway through my last drink.
Holy fucking goddamn christ your description of how you parent your child is so incredibly heartwarming! God, if every parent could care like you the world would be a paradise within two generations!
naturally...
Sir... (said I, "or Madam truly-")
I believe you have identified the issue exactly. How does a person do this "natural" thing or, if it does somehow happen, how does a person avoid interfering with its progress?
I have read only the first several books of WoT... This writeup indicates Jordan's work includes a subtlety that I think my younger self couldn't appreciate.
New to me!
... how much time can I afford to pour down this drain?