I've never heard of this either, just that it's best try not walking on the graves in general. Shoes are fine though, you're outside.
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So in the case here where I told my fiance to take his shoes off... It's a whole field. It's a mass grave. If you intend to cross it in any way you walk over human remains and not ones that were respected in life. It just seemed wrong to put my dirty shoes that had been everywhere on them and I told him to behave similarly and that's the question. He did it and didn't hate it or get angry or anything, just told me it was odd and he'd never heard of doing that before, and I can't even tell you where it came from it just didn't seem right to put dirty shoes on them.
I guess it depends on your culture. If my body was in a mass grave I was in the afterlife, people walking on the dirt above my old body with shoes on would not bother me.
I've absolutely never heard of this, it sounds spiritual/religion inspired
I do understand not walking over graves however, I end up walking like a Sim specifically around any graves to get where I'm going
So. The grave in question this time was a mass grave. The USA has a few of those as it turns out. But the point is that there's no alleys to follow. It's a whole field.
I've never heard of taking off your shoes, but I absolutely hate walking on graves. I'll just stand by the road or try to walk in between rows if I have to be closer.
Never heard of this rule but sounds like a cultural difference. I wish people would take their shoes off in my home but it's not common around here.
What if some of those dead people find it disrespectful if you walk around without shoes?
Personally I don't think dead people do or feel anything, but it's the feelings of living relatives which you might hurt with inappropriate behaviour. If you observe what others do or check the cemetary rules, that should give you a good idea what's okay and what not.
Since there is no way to ask what dead people actually need or want (and wether that question even makes sense), there is no objective way to know the answer. Different people will have different beliefs. One way to be respectful with each other in that situation is to not assume the moral high ground. Maybe it is okay if you take off your shoes and others don't?
Never walk over a personβs grave, but shoes are always expected.
Never heard of it and it sounds a bit strange to be honest. Why though?
I'm sure there are dead beings all over the place.
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