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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitathrowaway2407 on 2023-06-26 11:34:00+00:00.
This is all a bit of a mess and I need some outside opinions, so here we are
Me and my sister (I'll refer to her as Jane so it's easier to follow along) were always close, as kids and as we got older. Jane lost her fiance 5 years ago, when she was pregnant, which was devastating news for our entire family and I know it was really tough on her.
I'm a huge Taylor Swift fan and at the time her Reputation concerts were going on. Me and my friends bought tickets a long time ago and took a road trip to go. The dates clashed with Jane's fiance's funeral so I didn't go. I realize now that wasn't right but I was younger then and the concert was more important. This impacted mine and Jane's relationship and at the time I also thought she was overreacting, and we didn't talk at all for months. After a while we got back in contact and I've apologized to her many times over the years, but our relationship isn't really like before.
I got married in 2021 and gave birth to our first baby in April. I asked Jane to be my MOH but she refused, came to the ceremony but left early. When I asked her later why, she said because she had more important things to do. I was really hurt but didn't argue with her.
My daughter is a couple of months old now, Jane sent a gift basket but still hasn't come to see her. All of me and my husband's families have. A few days ago I called and asked casually when she planning to come visit us. What does Jane say? Only her famous line, that she'll come when she finds time and she has more important things to do.
I sort of blew up and said I apologized to her, she's dragging this on for one thing I did years ago and if she could let me know when she'd stop hold grudges. Jane got pretty pissed at me and said what she does isn't any of my business.
Edit: I've apologized to her a lot. I accepted what I did was wrong and I wouldn't do something like this again. Jane never gives me a straight answer on where we are