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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/RainStormDMD on 2023-06-25 02:29:54+00:00.
I (28F) have been married to my husband (30M) for two years, and we've been together for five. We are a happy couple, but my husband is quite introverted and doesn't like confrontation. He avoids it whenever possible, which is something I love about him, but it also means that I often have to be the one to stick up for us when people say things that are hurtful or disrespectful.
This happened last weekend when my brothers (32M and 25M) came over for a family dinner. My older brother has always been a bit of a joker, but lately, he's been making more and more comments about how my husband is "too quiet" and "doesn't talk enough" when we're all together. My younger brother has been joining in, and they've started making fun of my husband behind his back, calling him things like "the mute" and "the ghost."
I tried to ignore it at first, but it was really bothering me, so I finally spoke up and told them that their comments were hurtful and disrespectful. My older brother laughed it off and said he was just joking, but I could tell that my younger brother was upset that I had called them out. He started getting defensive and accusing me of being too sensitive.
Things escalated from there, and we ended up getting into a big fight. My brothers accused me of being overprotective of my husband and not being able to take a joke. I told them that they were being rude and that I didn't appreciate them insulting my husband behind his back. My older brother eventually apologized, but my younger brother stormed out of the house and hasn't spoken to me since.
Now I'm left wondering if I overreacted. Maybe I should have just let it go and not confronted them. But at the same time, I feel like I had to stick up for my husband and our marriage. He's a wonderful person, and he doesn't deserve to be treated that way.
So, Reddit, Am I the Asshole for getting into a fight with my brothers over their rude comments about my introverted husband?