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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/QuickTangelo2155 on 2023-06-25 03:28:10+00:00.
So, my fiancée (28f) and I(31m) are getting married in a few months. She has been on a strict diet to look her best for our wedding. I understand that she wants to feel confident and beautiful and I fully support her decision to make positive changes to her lifestyle. However, things have started to get a little tense between us and I'm not sure if I'm to blame.
She has been getting increasingly upset whenever I eat normally around her. She's expressed that it's difficult for her to resist temptation when she sees me enjoying desserts or indulging in treats. I've tried to be understanding and accommodating, but I also believe that I shouldn't have to alter my eating habits completely just because she's on a diet. I work a very physical job and have an active lifestyle. I've never had the most healthy eating habits but because of how active I am it's never been a problem for me.
Tonight was the breaking point. On my way home, I stopped by Chick-fil-A, which happens to be one of my fiancée's favorite fast food places. I thought I'd surprise her with a treat since she's been doing so good on her diet. When I got home and told her, she absolutely exploded. She called me selfish and unsupportive, saying that I was intentionally trying to sabotage her progress.
I never meant to hurt her and I genuinely thought I was doing something nice by bringing home her favorite food. But now I'm questioning whether I've been insensitive throughout this whole process. Should I have refrained from eating certain things around her even if they're not part of her diet? Am I really the selfish one here?