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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Slow-Huckleberry-773 on 2023-06-25 00:13:36+00:00.
Before we start sorry for the long write. here's some backstory. I (f 30) let my niece (f 20) live in the basement of my house while she's in university until she can find a place of her own. I am married to my husband (m 30) and we have one child (f 3), we live in a decently large house with a full basement. At Christmas 2 years ago, my sister (f 45) announced that her daughter let's call "Ella" had been accepted to the university of her dreams. I just so happen to live a few bus stops away from this school, so naturally as a good aunt I decided to put the offer for her to live with us while she went to school there. I had a few conditions obviously, but nothing too "over the top".
- Pay rent, the rent isn't expensive either. It's a lot cheaper than most other places in our city.
- If she's going to be staying with us she needs to have a job, a plan to move out as soon as she's financially able.
- If she is having friends over she should make sure we're okay with it and just to keep her "party" decently quiet since we do have a toddler. To be honest she was a pretty good tenant, she paid rent on time, she was an extremely good student, she even had dinner with us and offered to watch our daughter while we had date nights. Around her 20th birthday she got a bit more, irresponsible . She lost her job (which was a fairly well paying job) meaning she stopped paying all rents, she became a lot louder, which as a student I wouldn't be too concerned about but it was getting to the point where she would invite random people over for parties and the neighbours would call the police for the noise. I hit my limit when I found out she was kicked out of the school she worked so hard to get into. I called my sister to ask if she knew anything about all of this and she for some reason was angry and yelled, "Who cares she's just living her life" and hung up. As expected, I was furious so I did my little snooping and I called her old manager to figure out why she was fired, turns out she was dealing on the job. I have no idea why or where she would've gotten any of that but she did. I emailed the dean of the school she attended and apparently she just stopped showing to her classed and basically failed. I took it upon myself to talk to my husband and her father since my sister wanted nothing to do with any of this. I wrote up a little letter telling her she had to move out within 2 weeks or I'll be removing her stuff myself and she'll be basically homeless. The day of, her mother showed up to my door screaming at me and her daughter hadn't even packed anything up. My husband called the police and they removed her. AITA