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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/snictordrum on 2023-06-24 17:20:29+00:00.
We decided we wanted the gender of our baby to be a surprise to us and didn’t discuss any baby names. It was a girl so my wife instantly said, “can we name her “X”, after my great grandma? Her great grandma passed away a few years ago and was special to her because she raised her until age 10 or so. She obviously put some thought into this because she asked as soon as we were told it’s a girl. I actually never knew that was her great grandma’s first name because my wife always referred to her as “grandma”.
Well, that also happened to be the name of a girl I dated over a decade ago. My wife was super excited and obviously all emotional after giving birth so I didn’t say anything and agreed. This ex didn’t mean anything to me, we dated sophomore year in high school and I honestly forgot about her until the name came up. I didn’t think that was the right time to bring it up.
I completely forgot about the ex name part soon after because, well, new baby. Now it’s 4 years later and some of my buddies are over and one of the idiots says, “hey, didn’t you date an “X” in high school?” I said yes and the conversation moved on. After they left, my wife got pissed that I let her name our daughter after my ex. I said no, we named her after your great grandma, I had completely forgotten about my ex. She’s upset and I think she’s overreacting a bit and will cool down and understand. But while she’s avoiding me, am I the asshole here?