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[โ€“] kromem 4 points 1 year ago

As a woman, maybe more men should identify as women on Lemmy to make targeted misogyny both less accurate and more diluted?

[โ€“] surewhynotlem 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I've seen it and call it out, or in, or whichever direction it would be since I'm a cishet guy (I can only guess the people I'm speaking to are also men). But that's a bandaid. I'm interested to see any ideas on how to fix it at its source.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

why do you assume that other posters are male?

[โ€“] surewhynotlem 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In this context it's because they say things like "females suck and won't date me". I can't be 100% sure, but it's an ok guess to make.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

sheesh. incels gonna incel ig.

[โ€“] surewhynotlem 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah. At least they're open about it. Silver lining I guess

[โ€“] Chickenstalker -2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think women should roll with the punches online and not shy away from shitting back on people who shit on you. Of course, take commonsense precautions like not DDOSing yourself, but give em back as good as it gets.

[โ€“] specfreq 11 points 1 year ago

Did you mean doxxing?

[โ€“] mrcleanup 8 points 1 year ago

On the surface, of course, this sounds completely fair, while at the same time, insisting that these women have to not be themselves and instead must do extra things just to get respect isn't fair at all.

You shouldn't have to be willing to be baited into a fight to be respected.

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'll take a go at it. I am a woman. Don't automatically assume whoever you are responding to is male. Also, if we are specifically talking about women, then let's not forget that cis women, specifically, exist and don't have to do all the heavy lifting for every other non-cishet-male. Sometimes on R****t I felt that cis women were stifled in that regard. I will be very, very curious to see how this comment gets voted on and engaged with...

[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

what do you mean cis women exist and dont have to do heavy lifting for other non cishet male and how does that apply to making Lemmy a safer and more inclusive place for women?

[โ€“] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Regarding erasure, in an effort to make language more inclusive, women's identity is often erased. "Pregnant people" removes women (the vast majority of people who are pregnant are cis women). Other language like that. So use language that actually does acknowledge women and doesn't contribute to their erasure. "Pregnant women and people" perhaps, for example. When all you are usually dealing with is text on a screen, language matters.

Re: the other point, it's less Lemmy-specific. Cis men need to step up and do the work for inclusion as well. It seems there is a default expectation that of course women should be leading the charge since they're already a "minority" group. It's tiring.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

ah youre a terf. i dont care about your opinion then.

[โ€“] mrcleanup 1 points 1 year ago

Not sure exactly where you are coming from with that. The main post was about women specifically, is pretty normal to see responses that are "non-trans pregnant woman" specific considering that (as far as I'm aware) we don't have the technology to impregnate trans women yet.

And since the main post is about women, we can also assume we aren't talking about pregnant trans men.

I know it's fun to point your finger and "Gotcha!" But you are going to have to give us some pretty specific examples why if you want us to believe she's a terf.

[โ€“] [email protected] -1 points 1 year ago

Not sure how advocating for cis women makes me a terf. I don't exclude trans people, I simply want feminism to work for cis women as well.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did you get this talking point from Ana Kasparian? She recently made arguments like this, but they were a lot less reasonable. "Pregnant women and people" sounds like an easy compromise to me.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

I did not, I don't know who that person is actually. Thank you for thinking that it is a reasonable compromise.