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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Beginning_Rise1695 on 2023-06-24 07:46:03+00:00.
I (18f) have been estranged from my father for 3 years now (since pre-Covid). I was legally allowed by the courts to stop going to his house when I was 15. That was the choice I made. The reasons were kind of all bleeding into each other. He was pretty damn sexist and saw me as a babysitter because I was a girl and when he started dating his wife they would use me as a babysitter for her daughter. I was only 12 at the time. She was only a baby (and she's not my dad's because she's a different race to her mom and my dad) and I had not met her before the first time. He also got angry at me for not wanting to be his wife's junior bridesmaid because girls should love that kind of thing and I should bond with her over "girly" stuff. Then he would make comments that I could not study video game development in college because that was for boys.
The babysitting was also way too frequent in the last year of my still being at his house.
So unknown to me was he and his wife put me down as an emergency contact for her daughter if neither of them could be reached. And over a month ago I got a call that she was sick and needed someone to pick her up from school and neither parent was available. I told the school I had not consented to being on the list (and I was removed immediately) and I told them I would not pick her up.
Weeks later dad shows up when I was home and starts yelling at me saying I had left her to stay in school sick and how distressed she was when her mom picked her up and how his wife lost her job over leaving early. I told him that was not my problem and they were not my problem. He yells that she is a child and had been told her sister was coming to pick her up. I told him she doesn't have a sister. That if he wants to give her one, that is between him and his wife. He called me selfish and said I was disgusting.
His family also thought I should have just picked her up and made it clear to dad and his wife afterward it would not happen again.
AITA?