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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Pretend-Wall5421 on 2023-06-24 05:09:00+00:00.
I (18F) snapped at my brothers girlfriend (24F) because she was taking her feelings out on me.
I’m currently on a vacation with my family and my brother brought his girlfriend. During past vacations she’s had random issues with me that she later apologized for and admitted that she was wrong. I thought we would be fine until tonight; we’re staying in a big hotel room with two beds. We split up to party and I got back to the room earlier than them.
Earlier in our night I had noticed her upset about some kind of drama going on with her. I felt bad for her but I didn’t want it to ruin my vibe so I went and met up with a friend in the city. Well, she gets back with my brother and they walk in.
She seemed to be happy and smiling after feeling upset, but as soon as she saw me, her smile immediately dropped and she just went “oh.” She started to frown and threw her bag really hard onto the bed. I felt really awkward and I couldn’t help but take this personally. Like I was a nuisance or something. I felt really shitty.
I told them shortly after that I could hang out in the lobby to give them some space for awhile. She sighed really loud and went “you’re fine dude.” I said “you seemed upset so I wanted to give you some time” and I was about to walk out but she got annoyed and just said “you should probably mind your business.” I paused and got really fucking mad. I basically bitched her out and told her that I had a right to be in this room too and I’m sorry if that bothered her but it shouldn’t. It’s not like she fucking paid for our rooms and I can’t help being in one with her. She said that she had a right to be on the family trip and I said that she was lucky that my dad, the person paying, invited her and she should act grateful. I went into the bathroom but I could hear her whispering shit about me to my brother.
My brother is neutral about the situation but I’m still pissed at her. I felt bad that she was in a bad mood, but she randomly snapped at me for literally being in the room and I was just trying to be nice. I’m really mad that she took her shit out on me, but I also do feel a little bad for snapping back at her instead of simply remembering that it’s probably not about me. AITA