sorry for the typos writing this while crying ๐ข
So we started dating on December 16th 2022. I(18f) started a new diploma where I found my now ex(18m) and we weren't that close but we were friends. One day i scroll through whatsapp and see his profile pic and it was just a text which said done
I was skeptical so i put a msg and asked whether he was ok and didn't think much (im sry im crying while writing this ik this might sound really immature) so then i go to snapchat and i have a snap from him (as usual we maintain snap streaks) i click it its a set of pills with done written on the snap
i got so scared ive personally tried to SOME STUFF i got scared tried calling him in everything 60+calls but no answer and finally msged me. he said he was ok dont worry tried to stuff but he doesnt think that it worked said he was shaking and everything and he had another round of pills waiting
up to this point i had a little bit of crush and figured id say i like him because it was now or never , told him he said he never knew and said he finally felt wanted and we hit if off .At this point i had no idea whether i liked him or not but he made me fall in love instantly everyone said we looked too good to be true . although there were some fights we were the dream couple of everyone. he said i saved his life and he wouldnt trade anything for me.his mom is a woman who transferred from a Buddhist to a Christian and had strong opinions on her son dating a Christian girl. as soon as i got in the relationship i asked him what he would do if she didnt like me . he said she wouldnt mind and even if she did he'll go AGAINST HER TO BE WITH THE PERSON WHO SAVED HIM. quoting
fast forward to two weeks b4 he started getting really irritated and when i playfully fight and pretend to get he said maybe u should find a better man than him(we always used to play fight and he never said that) i asked whats wrong he said nothing but he started getting distant i asked him why over and over and he said he wanted to spend time with his family .fast forward to two days b4 he said he didnt want to see me crying anymore and his mom wont like me so hes going to breakup i literally begged him not to go because i was so attached . so we came to an agreement we stay for 4 years as friends and if his mom like me we'll start dating from scratch.
BUT he has told my mom that i was too clingy and he couldnt give me the commitment i wanted so HE BLAMED IT ON HIS MOM TO GET OUT quoting . I immediately called him asked whats going on we talked and i said im fine with the commitment part and its fine that u want to spend time with ur parents and asked whether he wanted to give it another shot he hesitated and said that his mom really wont like me because of my religion
i told maybe she would like me as a person he said no she wanted a GOOD CHRISTIAN GIRL SENT BY GOD he said it was not worth braking his moms heart for this and couldnt fight for me i cried but then agreed onthe 4 years AITA
I don't know of this helps, but stay strong. When time goes by it'll heal and one day you will be suprised how healed you are already. You will find somebody, who appreciates you as you are. Clingy or not :)