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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Confident-Text-8322 on 2023-06-22 17:08:10+00:00.
My sister (45f) and her daughter (12) came to stay with me and my wife (both 28) and our kids (10f, 6m) following my sister's divorce. My nieces bio dad has never been present and my sister's ex husband wants nothing to do with her, despite raising her. Due to this, my sister is severely depressed and my niece has been acting out. My sister honestly can't handle it and it's made her spiral further. She sleeps a lot. Both my niece and her are now in therapy.
My nieces friend came over 3 nights ago and hasn't left yet. Since this girl arrived, both my daughter and my niece haven't been very nice to my son. Purposely making sure he isn't included, to a point of making comments to him for something simple (like him going in to the living room when they are watching a movie). They are taking "girl time" to the extreme and they have been spoken to several times about it and I thought it was getting better.
Well, I got home from work today and my wife was noticeably pissed. She says "choose what you want for dinner and go wake your sister the fuck up because I'm not feeding her kid or her kids fucking friend". Apparently about 30 minutes prior the girls were being over the top mean to our son and it made my son rage out. I told my wife that I understood her frustration and I'm there to help her now. She said, through gritted teeth without looking at me and gripping the sink to a point of white knuckles "Go wake up your sister because I'm not fucking feeding her kid and her kids fucking friend. I'm done." Sister hears and comes down and gets in to it with my wife about her lack of empathy (for denying kids food) and I agreed with my sister. I understand this is hard and that the girls are being asses but don't deny a child food. She told us all to get out (technically her house) and that I had better never darken her doorstep again. My sister and niece were very triggered by my wife and were both crying profusely. AITA?