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Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/the-grip-of-Ntropy on 2023-06-21 08:42:44+00:00.


Good morning folks,

currently I (m31) and my gf (30) are on vacation in Portugal, which is very cool. We spend the whole day together, do sunbathing, yesterday we went on a beautiful boattrip and all in all we enjoy our time together here.

However, we have a problem in our relationship, which is driving us a bit apart and we can‘t find a even ground. I like to game and I recharge myself while doing so, she doesn‘t understand it at all.

Don‘t get me wrong, i fully understand that it is not simple to live with somebody who loves it to gaze into a display all the time, which is why I heavily restrict it when we spend time together. I give her my phone while we are out and give it all to be present.

Yesterday we came home from the boattrip and wanted to grab some dinner. She went showering and wanted to wash her hair, because they were all sandy and salty from the watersplashes. While she was showering, I opened my notebook and did 1-2 quests while waiting for her to step out of the shower. This seemed to be a mistake, she didn‘t like it one bit. She came out, i finished the quest (5min) and got ready.

After dinner we went sleeping. Today i woke up at 6am, and decided to make me a coffee and to start the game while she was sleeping anyway. I left the room, and played on mute, so she could sleep in peace. My mouse and my keyboard are both extra silent, you literally hear nothing - especially when you are in the next room.

However she woke up and began to cry, and asked „how is it possible, that you use every little timeframe you get to play on that thing instead of doing something with me?“

What else can I do, than playing in timeslots where we aren‘t together? Is she right, am i the asshole here?

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