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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/tweetybirdlover on 2023-06-21 00:52:41+00:00.
A little background. My father was never really a part of my life until I became an adult. My mom had full custody of my sister and I and my father never even had visitation until I was in middle school. Even then he never used it much and then quit all together a few years after he got it. I have a half sister that he raised and at some point after he quit using his visitation rights he got remarried to a woman who already had a son who he then helped raised. When my father died it was very clear based on my step brother’s reaction that they were close and he was a good father to him. That caused a bit of resentment/hard feelings from me bc he was never that for me.
A few months ago my step brother lost his daughter to a terminal birth defect. I sent my condolences to my step mother and half sister when I found out (I don’t really know my step brother well).
Around the same time I lost my grandfather who I was extremely close to and then this weekend lost my cat. I was talking to my half sister about what a hard year it’s been and the losses I’ve experienced. She said I forgot one and mentioned my step brother’s daughter. I agreed that the death was sad but said that it didn’t really impact me like that. She made a comment about me not caring about my niece/nephews and I said of course I do. I’m extremely close to my niece and nephews (bio sister’s kids) but I don’t consider my step brother’s kids to be a part of that category. Especially since I barely know him and haven’t even ever met his kids.
Now she’s not talking to me and my step mom and uncle (father’s brother) are saying I need to apologize for being an ah to my step brother and his kids.