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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Saynotothedress22 on 2023-06-21 22:56:59+00:00.
My fiancé and I are set to marry in a month. He has a step sister who is 16. My husband brought up her “dress” selection to me and said we should talk about it. I was confused as to why this would be a big deal but he needed to bring it up because his mom showed him a picture.
The way I’d describe it is that it looks more like a belly dancing costume rather than a dress. Like seriously, it is 2 pieces. The bottom is sort of drape-y and comes up to right around the hip. The top is almost like a sports bra with short sleeves. I told my fiancé absolutely not and he partially agreed but said this might be a battle because she’s extremely spoiled.
To give y’all readers a better idea. I googled “bare midriff dress” and “belly dancing outfit” and the picture I saw looks way like the latter. I know women are not supposed to judge other women’s fashion choices but I am so flipping sorry but she looks like the wedding prostitute. My family is also nosy and a tad on the conservative side. I don’t want to field a ton of questions/comments/concerns from them on my fucking wedding day about her dress.
So we both said something to her in a group text. My fiancé started the thread by asking politely she not wear it. I replied saying it looks really great on you but it’s just not the vibe we are going for at our wedding. And if she needs help paying for something else we can help. Well she blew TF up. Accusations of sexism through the roof. Maybe I didn’t think this part through but I reiterated that I liked it but my family is a bit conservative and we don’t want drama.
This is when she started insulting them. She was like instead of siding with a “fellow young woman” I’d rather cater to my old grouchy conservative family (who she doesn’t even know). She had another smug comment about how it’s her generations job to make old people uncomfortable and stand up to”generational sexism” whatever that means.
This is when I went over the line. I said you’re not looking like a hooker at our wedding, and if you show up wearing said dress you will be told to leave.
My fiancé tried to talk to her but it’s not like they have the best relationship. He tried to calm her down and ask nicely again. I apologized to her for my hooker comment, but she has not backed down in the slightest. Aita and what should we do