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I feel * checks wheel * Ashamed and Isolated today.
this post was submitted on 21 Jun 2023
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I went through a great 2 year soberiety/life change program at the union gospel mission and we used those a lot in group. I remember trying to be a bit of a jerk and trying to pick the angry ones my first few groups but as you go outwards and more specific it really got me thinking. This wheel was sooo helpful in expressing myself and getting deeper into things I needed to share both in group and solo counseling. Thanks for the share brought back some good memories!!!
Hell yeah I love to see it! I feel like anger is the most socially accepted outside of happy so that seems really reasonable to me. I'm glad you gave it a chance and had a place to open up :)
I can imagine this being useful for people who write fiction, too
Can I spin it and pick a new one?
Old but gold. It's quite useful; it's good to see it shared once more. Also, something similar (albeit in list form) was posted recently.
I frequently use freethesaurus.com to find "smacks of the same" variants.
I thinks that should be a poster in every english classroom. I mean in countries with other official languages.
Our teachers always had to encourage us to use other (more nuanced) words than happy and sad.
I'm blue da ba dee da ba di
This is great. Where is it from? Is it something standard and commonly used? Or did you magic it up?
You know, I honestly can't remember. Maybe google? I sent it to a loved one a while ago. They are really common though! They might not all have the same words on them, but they all follow a similar structure. I believe it's used to treat symptoms like alexithymia or childhood neglect. I remember learning about this concept in the book "Running on Empty" by Jonice Webb. She provides a list of feelings and recommends checking in with oneself often to see how they feel so it becomes second-nature. Glad you liked it!
I love things like this. Thanks for the extra info.
Skeptical as angry is odd. I am skeptical of that particular feeling location. Great post though. It is inspiring somehow and makes me want to try to create a game with such complex pawn/sims feelings system
When people feel skeptical, this is often inline with a more defensive feeling, which leads to anger. At least that's how I took it.
This is cool, but where's "desire/unfulfilled/needy/hungry/jealous/hungry/horny"? Seems like a big chunk of the pie that they missed.
Good point! This is an emotion wheel, but emotions are just one part of the larger concept of affects, which also include the appetites.
How many appetites are there?
I thought it would be an easy question to answer but it isn't. The closest I came was this article:
"appetitive motivation is active in contexts that promote sustenance (obtaining rewards, water, nutrients, shelter, sexual partners, nurturing the young) and defensive motivation in contexts that threaten life (attack, illness, injury etc.)"
This was the first thing my therapist showed me when I started DBT therapy. I always forget to use it, even when I find myself wondering why I’m in a bad mood.
At first I was afraid, I was petrified..
I've used this before with my kids to help them verbalize their feelings. Awesome tool!
Thank you for sharing this, opened some doors for me
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