Haven't heard "gay" as a pejorative in real life since high school in the late 90s.
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All of the comments here are reminding me of how life was 20 years ago and also before I was married with kids.
I genuinely don’t fucking care how feminine somebody thinks something I’m doing is if I’m comfortable or enjoying myself. I’ll drink pink drinks all day if it fucking tastes good LMLML bro.
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According to my dad, considering something as 'lovely'. Even if it's the exhaust note of a motorcycle.
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I was just walking to work one day, when I got heckled in the street by some random guy singing at me:
"Earthworm Jim, you're so much fun to play. Earthworm Jim, you're tall, you're thin, you're gay!"
I've never been more seen.
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I don't live in a shithole, so nothing.
I do, but also nothing
I wish you continued good luck in this regard.
when I finished high school and was talking with friends about going to uni, a few of us were talking a out renting a place together when we got into uni to be close (instead of 2 hours away like we were). another friend we should never do that because people would think we are gay. obligatory he is a Christian fundamentalist who is highly likely gay himself
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wearing colorful clothes (wtf)
These are all example from decades ago growing up in the 90’s.
I was called gay for not liking soccer, like it’s gay to not watch men chase a ball in shorts.
I was called gay for wearing UGG boots as a dude. Like if we even want to accept gay as an insult, I would argue the person bothered by such things as what shoes one is wearing is more fitting of an insult.
Fun fact. When I had a house mate who was gay, it was very difficult not to use gay as a word for something that wasn’t fun. Like this show is gay. He didn’t mind, but still wanted to stop.
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Certain piercings are stereotypically seen as gay or feminine. Like, I've got >30 piercings, yeah, I'm going to pierce my navel.
- Wear orange or pink.
- Eat quiche
- Like poetry
- Hang out with girls at recess
- Wear an earring
- Owning Laurie Anderson or Philip Glass CDs
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Are we talking gay or gay?
That word gets thrown around a lot without actually meeting homosexual. Most of the time it's just used as a tasteless replacement for lame.