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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/leapinglizzards10 on 2023-07-17 15:43:10+00:00.
I know I’m going to get judged heavily for this but here goes nothing. I (24F) have never gotten a drivers license. I have my permit which I’ve renewed in case I decide I might be ready to drive. Family has been pressuring me for several years since I was 18 to drive a car. I’d try to drive but I was simply terrified to do so. Recently I have been ready to drive until I received tragic news that a cousin of mine (20F) along with her best friends have all been killed in a car accident a month ago. My cousin was the driver. Not less than two weeks later, my brother (18M) got into a serious car crash. Thankfully he was not hurt but this shook me to the core as I could’ve lost him, too. I then made a vow to myself that I will never drive and that I wouldn’t mind catching an Uber or finding another source of transportation. I work from home so I don’t commute to work.
My aunt recently got into talking about cars and all of a sudden, she asks me if I will ever be ready to drive. I was really upset by this but I remained calm. I calmly told her that I don’t think I’ll ever drive ever since I lost my cousin and I could’ve lost my brother as well. They were both t boned, too. I am too afraid to get behind the wheel. My aunt laughed and my mom did as well.
Later, my mom expressed how upset she was and said that I am an adult and it’s ridiculous how an adult can’t drive. She also said that it’s incredibly inappropriate to use my cousins death as an excuse to not want to drive. I left in tears and my mom and I haven’t been speaking to each other.
Am I the asshole?
Edit: my brother is still living. He wasn’t hurt luckily.