I’m curious what you mean by dating? Because I think the expectations shift slightly once it’s an official relationship. I do find it unfair though when partners expect a 180 degree change.
Anyway you sound like a cat - https://www.huffpost.com/archive/ca/entry/are-you-a-cat-or-a-dog-in-relationships_b_6832072/amp
I think different people have different contact needs and it will be easier if you and your partner align.
This is the personal story part:
I’ve felt suffocated by previous partners - the daily good mornings and good nights felt like checking in on a mobile app game.
It’s not like I disliked or didn’t prioritise them, I am dating them after all. Most likely just a mismatch and lack of compatibility. My friends weren’t helpful either with their “aww he’s so sweet, I wish my partner was that affectionate”.
Right now I’m with someone whose level of contact matches mine and honestly it’s the best and healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I never ever thought such smooth sailing was possible.
I used to say relationships are work and effort but we’ve been coasting so far. Touch wood, maybe we’re just very compatible :)
I feel like a lot of finding a similar person is down to luck, so I hope you’ll find your person soon! If you’re with someone that has similar values and ways of dealing, communication will just naturally be easier. :)