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When I am pressed to do something important, I invariably must start a new task that will take all of my energy. (self.adhdwomen)

submitted 1 year ago by blueskiesoc to c/adhdwomen

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Current example: I'm tidying my home for a sleepover guest and my dining table has all of the hand tools from the garage and wherever else I had tucked them away. I'm cleaning them, removing rust, oiling them to prevent future rusting, and organizing them. They weren't on the table two days ago, but IT HAD TO BE DONE.

I feel driven to put off one thing that must be done--has to be done--in favor of something that has zero urgency at all.

I know that's a thing, so if you do that too, let's share.

I think it's helpful because the more I learn about what I have in common with other ADHDers, the more patience I give myself. I'd like others to learn to give themselves a break too.

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[–] gothicdecadence 6 points 1 year ago

I absolutely do this too and it drives me crazy, I don't know why I do it!! I wanna learn more too, I don't know what the brain thing is that causes this 😅

[–] EveningTurnip 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Guilty as charged, but I also need to clean my tools come fall and try to repair a garden hoe which I'm gonna be obsessing over to hopefully make it look good

Oh the pre-sleepover cleaning binge, i'm sweating just thinking about it. You can do this!

[–] blueskiesoc 2 points 1 year ago

Aww, thanks

[–] Awthatsnotright 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can definitely relate. I can’t seem to clear out a defined area before I’ve completely switched tasks—accidentally—and forget what I started doing… It could all cultivate by going into another room to put something away.

Could be trying to group donations and find a cute shirt that I need to hang up right away and then I start looking at clothes in the wrong closet…. Main Tasks incomplete. 🤷🏽‍♀️

My therapist of many years recently mentioned that I have ADHD. She thought I already knew but I never did! No one has ever suggested that or tested me…

So I’m not medicated for that but I’m on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds.

[–] blueskiesoc 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Anxiety and/or depression goes hand in hand with ADHD. I've had chronic depression since I was a kid. Wasn't diagnosed until I was an adult seeking my own treatment and wasn't dignosed with ADHD until late middle age. It sounds dystopian to suggest even a rudimentary checking in for everybody to screen for neurodivergence and mood disorders in high school, but we get screened for scoliosis and vision already, at least where I am. I'm not saying diagnosis should be done by any school-visiting medical group, but recommendations for further testing if a possibilty is there--all under HIPAA for privacy of course (if you aren't in the US, it's a law prohibiting medical personnel from disclosing private medical history).

Anyway, I think earlier diagnosis would've helped us all.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

@blueskiesoc: Wow, I really feel you. I'm just getting used to it and being kind to myself. Warm hug.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I have a full time contract 1099 job but I had to start my freelance editing job 3 weeks before school also starts because FUCK future me thats why.

[–] blueskiesoc 1 points 1 year ago

Oh my god. Good thing we work well under pressure. There may be yelling, possibly crying, but shit gets done.