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How do you deal with the situation where you are invited to play a game, only to find it's wildly complex and takes 4 hours to finish, and you find yourself not wanting to play it within minute 5? (lemm.ee)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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This has happened to me a few times. One I remember was the game Alchemist, where I just sat there confused as hell for 4 and a half hours while three guys were all talking about strategies. Tonight it was Terraforming Mars, where I was told it would be a 3 hour game, but by hour 4 we were halfway done. This time I said "it's 11pm, I have work in the morning, this will be my last hand" and the host got very passive aggressive with me. I just don't know what to do in these situations.

^Also is there a word for this? My girlfriend said I was "held game hostage" but I don't see that used in my searches.^

Update: I sent an apology for leaving early, and he wasn't too frustrated about it and understood my frustration which was nice. I told him I didn't think it was my cup of tea since it was so dense, but he kept trying to sell me on the game.

I just gotta learn how to decline with this guy, he is a bit of a "won't take no for an answer" person, but I'm still learning to be firm with boundaries.

I'm really a 45 minute or less person, and prefer games with like... 5 rules. I have communicated that before, but he really wants me to play the games he loves which I take as a compliment.

He did have me playing Dominion for a while, and that was a time when I just would suck it up and play for his sake since he was going through a divorce. We literally had the parks and rec sketch where I said "I don't really like Dominion" and he said "what do you mean? You've played all the games!"

He housed me when I was homeless, so it's hard for me to decline things with him since he showed me that huge kindness.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

anyways Terraforming Mars hardly lasts more than 3 hours. I’ve had games at it that lasted 1h45’. It needs that everybody prepare their turn on other player’s turns, and when it’s up to you, you just execute what you planned.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

That sounds like my experience with Star Fleet battles. A 'simple' and 'introductory' game at a local games club that three hours later had us only finished the second turn.

Back then I stuck it out to be nice. Now I'm far more likely to just apologetically say that the game is not working for me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

I got the opposite problem. I sit at the table and then get a super easy, super random game that lasts an hour and I just get irritated to waste an entire hour doing something that I feel trivial and random.

I’d rather play a 4-hour complex game but with lots of player agency rather than a 60-minute dice fest.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Tonight it was Terraforming Mars, where I was told it would be a 3 hour game, but by hour 4 we were halfway done.

Irrelevant side jest: everybody knows that the Apartheid Manchild always lies about how long things will take.

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