submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

It'd be funny if it weren't so tragic. Korea has the lowest fertility rate in the world and it has many reasons, 4th quater last year was 0.6 children per woman. Here is one of the reasons:

I'm a stay at home dad and I'll need to go back to work in 4 months. We're both foreigners so our son is foreigner too even if he was born in Korea. We called the nursery which is close to us here and they said there a 30 babies in line but that doesn't even matter, because as foreigners we are not allowed to be in that line anyway.

So I have two options, either hire a nanny which will consume most of what I'm making probably, or don't go to work, which is probably what I'll have to do, which is problematic for more than just the money reason. If this continues, I guess moving back to Europe will become a necessity more than just a wish from my side.

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[-] miseducator 4 points 4 months ago

Yeah, the 어린이집 places all have long wait lists. Don't see why foreign babies aren't allowed though. Maybe because you don't get the government stipend for child care? There must be other places that accept foreign babies. Have you tried Facebook groups for parents in Korea? They gotta have some advice for you.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Ok, we dug deeper and they sent us a mail with steps what we need to do to apply to be on some list, it's not clear yet if it is the same list as the 30 other babies are or if it is a different list.

[-] miseducator 1 points 4 months ago

Good to hear you're making progress! Let us know what you find out. I have a thirteen month old that I have to start thinking about sending off to socialize at one of those places.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

So we applied to be in the line and didn't get any answers via email, so went to that Kindergarden and they said they couldn't really promisse us that there will be space for our baby when I need to go back to work. There seems to be a point system and we only have 300 points, while many other people have over 700 points so they would get in first. This was one of those national Kindergartens where they appearently have kindergarten teachers with a higher education, it was also a very new building, etc.

Anyway, we started looking for a different Kindergarten which would still be close to us. We found one which is not run by the state/city or how ever it works here in Korea. We went there and it was older and a bit run down, but they said that they have space there. They have space for 6 small babies like him and only 2 are using it. They blamed the lack of children on the fact that during Covid people stopped having children, which yeah, having seen the line to the other Kindergarten obviously is just their dellusion. So it looks like it depends on the Kindergarten if they have space for your child or not.

In the second one we also asked how much it would cost, because we as foreigners have to pay for it ourselves. They said it's around one million KRW. Damn, I didn't expect it to be that expensive. I mean we both pay taxes like everyone else, but we can't use the infrastructure for our children like everyone else, that's a bummer. Don't get me wrong, I'm still happy that they even allow us to live here, but yeah.

[-] miseducator 1 points 3 months ago

Thanks for the update. Korea loves their point systems. I'm curious how a newborn even accumulates points.

A mil is quite a lot compared to what Korean parents pay after the government helps them out. Are you sure there aren't any government programs you could take advantage of? My wife, who's Korean, and I had to hit up the government office a couple of times to get enlisted in the programs we're in. I know it's a lot harder to navigate as you're both foreigners, but it might be worth a shot to call around and see if you qualify for some kind of aide. Like you said, you're paying the taxes.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

My partner is ethnically Korean, but she is still Chinese citicen (but is switching to Korean citicenship right now), she was born into the Korean minority in China and grew up speaking Korean only until she went to middle school or something. She is handling all of it, I'm just watching her doing it ^^. Anyway there was something where we can get a coupple of thousends but nothing worth mentioning.

[-] miseducator 1 points 3 months ago

Oh, right on. Best of luck to y'all!

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