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lemmy users who have achived their dreams/goal, how did you do it? (lemmy.fmhy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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even if its just one goal or dream that you achived and such, how did you do it and how did iy make you feel?

im honestly struggling to achive things i want becasue i tend to dream big so how did you all do it?

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[–] indepndnt 4 points 1 year ago

This is honestly why I keep leaning further and further left. I have worked my ass off, and I have achieved a lot. I put myself through school and got a master's degree and have a decent career. I have an awesome partner and my kids are doing well.

I grew up very poor. My parents were religious nut jobs resulting in a perfect combination of abuse and neglect. My first marriage was also abusive.

I'm angry about what I've had to sacrifice and how hard I've had to work to overcome so many things that were completely out of my control. I'm also a white cis man in America. So, so many times people have said things to me about women, other races, LGBTQIA+, etc, as if it would be the default view, that there is no question that there is a ton of bigotry out in these systems. And then I think, what would the experience be of someone in one of these groups and otherwise a similar situation to mine? How much more would they have to sacrifice? How much harder would they have to work? Would they even ever be able to get as far as I have?

This makes me even more angry, and I think this shit needs to change.