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'Askers' vs. 'Guessers' (www.theatlantic.com)
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Are you an asker or a guesser? Short interesting read.

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[–] BeefPiano 6 points 9 months ago

I wonder if guessers don’t have good boundaries, and so they’re afraid to impose on others. If you can’t say no to people, you might avoid putting other people in a position to say no so you dance around the subject.

Then, when someone with good boundaries comes along and outright asks you for something, they seem rude because they’re putting you in a position to assert a boundary and you struggle with that.