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How do you find motivation when it's not there? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 8 months ago by metaphortune to c/[email protected]

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Whether it be to do your job, get your schoolwork done, clean your house, work on your creative passion, etc.

Bonus points if you're someone without reasonable self-control so saying something like "I can only have a cookie after I do this/while I do this" doesn't work for you and you're just going to eat the cookie and not do it.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 8 months ago

I try reframing whatever it is I need to do so that it’s not as intimidating/soul crushing/whatever. For me the way to make this actually work is to only reframe things in a way that is both true and nonjudgmental.

Original thought/feeling: my apartment looks like a wreck, I’m a shitty person for living like this, now I’m obligated to clean

Reframed thought: my apartment needs to be cleaned up, but that’s fixable and doesn’t mean anything about me as a person. I can use the time I spend cleaning to also listen to an audio book. Making my environment cleaner and more enjoyable will be a gift for my future self.