Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/EmbarassedChristian on 2023-06-24 15:19:48+00:00.

Some context: since January, my wife (25f) has played almost nothing but Taylor Swift, daily, on repeat. Averaging about an hour her music a day.

She’s a huge fan; shed many tears when we decided she couldn’t pay $1000 to see the concert.

I am not a swiftie. Not really even a fan at all. I think Taylor needs new subject material. Good songwriter but repetitive and boring to me.

Whether we’re in the car, having a game night with neighbors, sitting by the pool, playing cards, or cooking, my wife is playing and singing Swift over a Bluetooth speaker.

It started off cute. Then got annoying. Then made me feel like I’m hanging out with a 14 year old from 2011. I am permanently banned from saying anything negative about Swift. Saying I don’t like her is “taking away from her achievement as the first female artist to have such a successful tour”

We are currently in a hotel with 4 family members, about to go on vacation. 9:00am and my wife starts playing to brush her teeth. Nobody else was particularly bothered because they don’t have any context, but I think they were clearly wondering why she was playing it so loud.

I asked if we could “take a vacation from Swift this week as well.” My wife threw a bit of a fit saying I embarrassed her or implied that she is immature. Her parents are telling me I’m being rude. Asked my wife to step outside to chat, told her I wasn’t trying to hurt her feelings. It didn’t go well and now I’ve “ruined the vacation.”

I understand making her feel awkward, and her family not being bothered, but am I an asshole for being tired of her singing the 10 minute version of All Too Well?