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What are the bad patterns of Reddit to never repeat on Lemmy? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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A few examples include s*x questions on askreddit, "this" comments, nolife powermods, jokes being more frequent than actual answers

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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To make the ex metaphor. Talking shit about your ex is not productive but talking about what was wrong or didn't work can be very insightful. Entirely blocking your ex out of your mind is a pretty easy way to make the same mistakes again.

I can see why people think it's annoying but I think this is also a good thing. Talking about this helps people understand what they want to see in their communities or instances.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago

Pushing the metaphor even further, all my stuff isn't even moved out of the ex's house yet, so I'll probably want to keep talking about them until the situation is over. It's just going to take a little time.