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is telling your employer you may leave if passive aggressive coworkers don't stop gossiping about you behind your back and gaslighting you a good idea? (linux.community)

submitted 8 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I always thought of it like this: if a workplace makes you feel devalued or is toxic (gaslighting and ranting about you behind your back), you quietly find new pastures.

Now, however, I think this is the wrong approach: why do I have to accept they bully me? I should defend myself. And doesn't the manager have to make sure a workplace ain't toxic? Instead of quietly looking for a new job next time this happens, wouldn't it be better to confront, document and escalate instead of letting it go? even if HR only exists to protect the company and not me.

If HR and manager do nothing to address the problem, wouldn't it be a better strategy to start working the least possible and let the company fire me, while looking for another job?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Depends. HR maybe see your complaint and decide "I should take care of this workplace harassment before someone wisens up and talks to a lawyer"

I would say talk to HR, but not until you've actually got another job lined up.

Maybe they think ahead and take care of the problem, maybe they just sweep shit under the rug. It depends on the HR rep in question.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago

I've seen that, but with a little twist.

I should take care of this harassment before someone wisens up and talks to a lawyer, we'll let them go when they think we've taken care of it so we'll be in the clear.