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[โ€“] Potatos_are_not_friends 12 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

As long as people aren't being a jerk about it, I see no harm in that.

A similar question happened to me, where a man asked me if he can have a 20oz cup but fill it with soup. And not really gaf about my min-wage job, said sure, thanks for asking!

Then for like a month, I was politely ask if there's any discounts, or if I can have like 50 packs of mustard. And sometimes I did accidentally upset a worker and I'd have to explain that I was really expecting a NO and seeing where it would go.

It helped me also become better at receiving rejection, which is a useful skill.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

There are two separate cultures around asking for favors like this.

In one, a person can ask for anything without being considered rude, but they are expected to not react negatively to being told 'no'.

In the other, it is expected that you only ask for something if you're sure the answer will be yes. Asking for something to which you expect a rejection is rude in this culture. Also people tend to react negatively to being told 'no', as they were fully expecting a 'yes'.

I grew up in the latter system, as it is what most of the western world uses. It requires far more social aptitude and ability to pick up on queues. It causes a ton of problems (especially with dating) and is a nightmare for anyone on the autism spectrum.

This is a long way of saying: be careful of who you ask for random favors from. In a customer role it's fine, but it may not go well with friends/family.