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You're just a kid, how would you know what you want for the rest of your life? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by Custoslibera to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago (4 children)

At 53 with a partner and two kids, I am currently in deep, deep depression wishing that I’d married the girl I split up with at 24.

[–] Custodian1623 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

no shame in therapy if you haven't been

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I’ve been for other issues but it’s more or less all the same: “pull yourself together, stop XYZ”

[–] dulce_3t_decorum_3st 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Have you tried turning it off and on again?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Thought about turning it off, plenty of times. Off. Right off. Like unplugging it completely.

[–] Baphomet_The_Blasphemer 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Well, for whatever it's worth, this internet stranger is happy you're still here. As long as you're here, it can get better.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago

Thanks Baph!

[–] pigup 4 points 11 months ago

oof

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Do you miss the 24 year old girl or do you miss being 24?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

The girl, who is now about 49 with two kids.

I’m fine with being oldish. I’m a much wiser and less impulsive person.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think I may have just gone down the same path and im scared I may have the same realization one day.

Why did you guys split up back then?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Me being an impulsive dork and dumping her for a far less intelligent girl with bigger breasts who didn’t even really happen even. That was it. Game over. She wouldn’t take me back.

TBH I should’ve ended myself then but was too stupid to even realise that was the better option than living another 20 years without her. Still… I wouldn’t have wanted to hurt my parents. Been distracting myself ever since with lots of other stuff. Can’t do it now because of my kids, and mother still alive. Dad fucked in head with dementia. Oh well. Keep trudging on and now have Lemmy to make stupid comments on. Yay.

[–] thorbot 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Hang in there. Consider talking to a therapist.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

One foot in front of the other. Look for the positives. Know that the perfection I imagine is nostalgic nonsense and it wouldn’t have worked out anyway. We’re just meaningless meat bags of hormones and bullshit. Meh. Whatever. There’s no ‘meant to be’ there’s just ‘is’ , and that too shall pass.

But yeah , thanks.

[–] thorbot 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

That’s a wise take(the first part … until you edited more into the comment) Dwelling on what ifs will never get you anywhere

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I reckon even Buddha had a chick he wishes he didn’t bail on. Edit: btw it’s 2:50 for me and have to get up in 3 hours. I’m going to try to sleep.
Cheers.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Sorry re edit. Yes. I’m good at wide takes.