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I try my best to do the opposite for my partner, giving her a safe space and empower her to advocate for herself. Even when we have disagreements, I go out of my way to make sure she knows her point of view's valid and that I care about what she thinks.
I've been in gaslighting relationships before, so I strive to foster an environment that's the opposite of that for both of us. ❤️
Excellent point. Allowing space for reflection and self discovery is important.
It's tough because she has a lot of trauma too. Sometimes there's power imbalance caused by perception and trauma, wherein she feels like even if I say she should speak her mind, I'll get upset if she does. Vigilance is necessary to regain balance. ^^
Yep, trauma is a powerful beast. My partner has also been working on this and she's made some amazing progress. Despite that, she still recognizes the triggers are still there and works through them