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Why are we infantilizing adults? Interpersonal relationships are complex and nuanced; we can acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships without insulting the autonomy and choices of those involved. These neo-puritanical bullshit tendencies creeping in on the left needs to stop; it's a trojan horse for the next generation of conservatives. Reject non-nuanced conservative-bate thinking.
Because while it may result in a stable, positive, loving relationship (or just mutually great, harmless sex that's what they're after), it's a strong predictor when people are actively seeking a relationship with that kind of gap. Think about the likely reasons someone would seek that kind of thing, and the likely outcomes. I think it's reasonable to look at this sort of thing with suspicion, but not to immediately dust off the pitchforks and light the torches.
Not all middle-aged single men distributing candy from the back of their windows van are paedophiles, but it's both reasonable and responsible to look at what they're doing with suspicion.
It's interesting you'd bring politics into this when conservatives seem so wrapped up in protecting child brides, child beauty pageants, fetishise youth, and appear to be massively over-represented represented in paedophilia stats.
I think it's reasonable to mind your own fucking business. The judging and flimsy excuses to meddle are guaranteed to cause relationship issues for others.
You act when there's evidence of abuse, not 'predictors'. This is fucking twitter/reddit moon-logic where every day 5000 supposed serial killers are identified based entirely upon whether they kicked a dog or left the toilet seat up.
This is a stupid assumption in itself. Most people don't have a wealth of relationship options to choose from. If you're desperate enough to denigrate yourself using tinder, you're desperate enough to cast as wide a net as possible and settle for anyone not actively smoking meth.
Take a deep breath, my guy.
Yeah - the National Institute of Health's National Library of Medicine is a junk source, but here's the actual data. Spoiler: it's a predictor. I think it's time you calmed down and started acting based on evidence rather than rage and moon logic.
You also seem to be confusing looking upon something with suspicion and actively intervening - why?
I thought we were dismissing moon logic and deferring to evidence. One in eight people in my country use online dating without controlling for anything - age, relationship status, nothing. Forbes Health state that 52% of American adults that have never been married use online dating, and Statistica report 57.44 million users of online dating in the US in 2022. On the other hand, the NIH report 2.5m Americans have used meth in the past year. Reeeally scraping the bottom of the barrel with over half the available dating pool, eh?
Are these feels based on your personal experience? You might be able to do better than meth addicts if you calmed down a little. There are plenty of free meditation resources online - it can't hurt to give 'em a try!
I read this over a couple of times looking for your thesis statement... nope, there wasn't a point hidden in there anywhere, just poorly-contextualised quoting of statistics, like how you gloss over the very poor success rates on dating apps/sites, and an opening strawman.
Just a very overwrought u mad troll. Okay, cool, can't believe I interrupted my movie for a ploy straight out of 2010.
Because there isn't a difference. The moment someone falls on the wrong side of a taboo, they're considered fair game. You're just doing the work of rationalising it.
Did you get as far as the first two sentences from the study? I'll give them here.
I've brought credible, relevant studies and stats, you continue to defer to feels. "nuh-uh - I am rubber you are glue" isn't going to cut it. That's the feels covered, now tell me why you'd type the way you did it you weren't blinded by rage.
There's no difference between looking upon something with suspicion and actively intervening? This is just stupid on the face of it - tantamount to "There's no difference between investigating someone and executing them."
Is your treatment of reasonable suspicion (informed by credible studies) as active intervention, and insistence that you can only date the handful of crackheads in your age group the result of a persecution complex linked with relevant experience?
Fuck me, you're tedious and desperate. Oh noes, I swore again, I must be 'raging'. Absolutely one-note, and about a decade by its best-by date as a troll, let alone a debate tactic. Even if you could get me stirred up, it wouldn't be an impediment to my reasoning skills or articulation because I'm not a child.
...over something that was never a point of contention. You went google-fuing for no other reason than to look like you've got something to argue with me about.
No, if we're going with argument by analogy, what you're doing is stirring up a witch hunt and then claiming no responsibility when people you've enabled drown a bunch of spinsters.
You don't look upon a bunch of strangers' relationships with 'suspicion' if you have any fucking concept of pulling your fucking head in and minding your own business. You're a busybody, a gossip, a meddler. If you want a predictor, try having a healthy relationship with anyone when you've got a bunch of twat neighbours looking through your windows and whispering behind your backs. You're the same kind of arsehole who makes going out in public hell for a lot of mixed-race couples because they get smirks and weird comments about how it must be a 'mail order bride' scenario. Like you're not fighting for some great moral victory here, you just suck.
You go on this diatribe for keeping the data and practicalities in mind when I see a 45 year old guy with an 18 year old as you talk about people afflicted with addiction the way you do? Careful on the high road - I hear it's precarious up there.
I'd encourage you to direct your witch hunt nonsense at the NIH. Not much for me to argue, sorry.
I hope that active imagination of yours is useful in your search for a stable relationship - truly.
And you just assume it must be an age-gap relationship and start getting icky feelings and start looking online for ways to justify your pearl-clutching and feelings of outrage, when on the balance of probabilities they're just a father and daughter with a healthy affectionate relationship you never had growing up, and you just have unresolved emotional issues.
Yeah... ngl, kinda hoped we'd left most of you people behind on reddit.
Yeah - fuck me - I find incest to be a problem too - for all the same reasons and a handful more. Are you going to suddenly start clutching your pearls at that one?
Who said anything about incest? Fuck me, I was on the money. You came at me with a bunch of trolling crap and accusations of 'rage', yet you may legit need help.
You did - When I was talking in context about a sexual relationship with a significant age gap, and you decide that they were related.
Nah, mate, you're just deranged. You see any two people in public together and assume they're screwing, then if someone points out to you that they're probably just related you still think they're screwing? Fuckin' weird.
Do you frequently find it this difficult to follow a conversation, and have to constantly reestablish the frame of reference, or should we read something into your desperation to pivot away from the point?