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I'm a dad to two, my oldest is 10, his sister just turned 8. their mother and i are getting a divorce. It turns out she's batshit crazy. I should have left her years ago, but only got around to it last year.
She called the child protective services on me because i have depression, therefore she claims i;m a danger to them. they completed their investigation and found that I'm, in fact, not posing any danger to them at all. However, they did find evidence that their mother does endanger them. Their final investigative report is going to be sent to the judge for children's affairs and hopefully he'll see the case soon. When I first decided to leave her, i was open to the idea of shared custody and having my kids 50% of the time. But now, with this new info I think I'll ask for 100% custody.
This reads almost exactly like my life at the moment. My soon to be ex wife let her addiction take control, she was driving around the kids under the influence all the time. While waiting for the divorce proceedings I have full custody of the kids.
It's hard, but worth every second knowing they are safe.
I'm sorry to read that man. It's really hard knowing that the person you loved enough to marry turned out to be that dangerous. Addiction and mental illnesses are, in my opinion, not the fault of the person afflicted by it, but it doesn't mean that we have to be harmed by their illnesses or allow our children to be put in danger by them. I hope your divorce goes smoothly, quickly and ends with you having your kids.