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Any dads out here that want to join? (self.dadvice)

submitted 11 months ago by camelbeard to c/dadvice

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For years I was on Reddit and the last few years as a new dad I really liked daddit, it was a very nice community of dads that would share advice and help each other. It's the only part of Reddit I miss and never found a substitute for.

So I hope dadvice can grow into a community like that.

Please share your stories, dad jokes, ask for help, etc.

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[–] problematicPanther 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I'm a dad to two, my oldest is 10, his sister just turned 8. their mother and i are getting a divorce. It turns out she's batshit crazy. I should have left her years ago, but only got around to it last year.

She called the child protective services on me because i have depression, therefore she claims i;m a danger to them. they completed their investigation and found that I'm, in fact, not posing any danger to them at all. However, they did find evidence that their mother does endanger them. Their final investigative report is going to be sent to the judge for children's affairs and hopefully he'll see the case soon. When I first decided to leave her, i was open to the idea of shared custody and having my kids 50% of the time. But now, with this new info I think I'll ask for 100% custody.

[–] camelbeard 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's a really shitty situation, good that you made the choice for yourself and your kids!

Do you have a decent support network around, like friends and family? That can make a huge difference.

Good luck! If you ever need some help or just want to talk send me a message.

[–] problematicPanther 1 points 11 months ago

Thanks so much. Yeah, it was a hard decision when i realized I had to leave, but it was either that or end up committing suicide because of depression that i wasn't being treated at the time. I'm in a much better place, mentally, now, and I'm able to say that I will always be there for my kids whenever they need me.

Unfortunately, I live far away from my folks. I'm in europe, they're back in the states. Once the divorce is done, i should be able to actually visit them more often, and hopefully my kids will grow up with a more or less normal relationship with their grandparents back stateside.

[–] Syll 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

This reads almost exactly like my life at the moment. My soon to be ex wife let her addiction take control, she was driving around the kids under the influence all the time. While waiting for the divorce proceedings I have full custody of the kids.

It's hard, but worth every second knowing they are safe.

[–] problematicPanther 1 points 11 months ago

I'm sorry to read that man. It's really hard knowing that the person you loved enough to marry turned out to be that dangerous. Addiction and mental illnesses are, in my opinion, not the fault of the person afflicted by it, but it doesn't mean that we have to be harmed by their illnesses or allow our children to be put in danger by them. I hope your divorce goes smoothly, quickly and ends with you having your kids.