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Introverts of Lemmy, what do you do when you feel lonely? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 10 months ago by fastandcurious to c/[email protected]

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First time I’ve been feeling lonely this year, ik this is in stark contrast with the time of the year but I wasn’t able to perform in my school annual function (I really wanted to) and for some reason I have been feeling lonely since, what do you do when you feel like this?

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[–] reversebananimals 28 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'm a hardcore introvert who rarely gets lonely, but it does happen occasionally.

Similar to your school function, I find it helpful to have one regular, structured event in my life that forces socialization.

For me that's a tabletop gaming group - we meet once a week to play. The structure and shared goal is helpful, because it takes the pressure off of pure socialization. If I'm feeling social I can crack jokes & banter during the game, but if not I can just focus on playing.

Also, a weekly cadence means that missing one session doesn't make me feel super lonely, because I know another is coming soon. Your function sounds tougher since its only once a year - you might be better off finding a similar activity that happens more regularly.

[–] fastandcurious 1 points 10 months ago

Really hard for me because there really is nothing like this going on where I live, I do have some friends which I occasionally hangout with but they are more kinda ‘wasting time/wandering around’ kinda friends, not people who i would share my problems with

Tbh I didn’t join the function to socialize, that’s also why I find it strange that I feel like this