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While this is mostly true, in my experience creating a new system is worth it enough to keep implementing new ones. Like sometimes the new system will work for awhile (days, weeks, even months), and the increased togetherness for that time period is valuable.
In addition to creating complex systems that can work for a short while, it's also good to create simple systems that have a chance of working long term. If systems are braindead simple then there's a much better chance they'll last, and you're likely to restart them if they lapse. I'm taking like extremely simple. For example like using a nagging reminder app for just 1 or 2 tasks a day. The app will keep reminding you repeatedly at set intervals over and over again until you actively mark the task as done. I use the app galarm on Android
I really like this perspective. It may not bring relief forever, but it bring it temporarily, and that’s also valuable.
It’s similar to how you get yourself into an exercise routine, or really any habit you’re trying to maintain long-term. It’s about consistency and doing something that’s repeatable. Going all out a few times is probably going to burn you out, even breaking the habit once before it’s become your routine can be enough to set a precedence and you fall out of it. But if you start out slow with the bare minimum that you can achieve on a regular basis, even on a bad day, then it’s more likely to eventually just become second nature. Then you start expanding it and adding on to it as you get bored/comfortable with the routine.