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[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I don't have it in me. Music just does not cause me to want to move my body. I can do the line dance ones but that's just following directions which doesn't seem to be what it's all about to me.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Oh no? You don't tap your foot, or bob your head to your music? Humans have been dancing for millennia, it's in our DNA. It's cool if it's not your favorite thing, but unilaterally ruling it out is wild.

I got made fun of for my dancing by a pretty girl in middle school, made me keep away from the dance floor for years, and I didn't know what I was missing out on.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago (1 children)

You don’t tap your foot, or bob your head to your music?

No, if it's high energy music it can get my adrenaline up but that doesn't do anything for dancing or maybe it would be more accurate to say dancing doesn't help with that. It's more of a flight of fight response. I've tried forcing myself to dance before but it does nothing for me. I just feel like an idiot.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

I felt like an idiot for a long time when I didn't know what I was doing. Still do, sometimes, esp if I'm fully sober (social anxiety yay). And in the beginning it wasn't enjoyable, either, I wasn't doing it initially to have fun, but was tired of standing on the wall or at the bar every time I went to a place or event with expected dancing (and there are LOTS of these, particularly in your 20s). It was surprising when I found myself enjoying it, now it's surprising when I don't.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm past my 20s. It never got any better for me. Even with irresponsible amounts of liquor.

[–] Whirling_Ashandarei 1 points 11 months ago

I mean, it sounds like you tried and that's all I'm really saying is to try. Also not necessarily referring to dancing as an actual dance floor despite the post, some of my favorite "dancing" has just been head banging with my buddies. There's also added pressure to an actual dance floor that I'm not trying to hand waive away.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Same here. The issue for me, I think, is that my feelings about music are the same as my feelings about chocolate; it's fine, but I don't see why everyone makes such a fuss about it.
My lack of interest in dancing is just an extension of that.

I did country dancing (essentially line dancing, but done in a circle and without the country and western theme) a couple of times at primary school in the 80s. I quite enjoyed that, but as you say, it was about following the instuctions and patterns rather than reacting to the music.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

You might enjoy salsa rueda. It is like country dancing, but is done to cool salsa music, and there is still a bit of creativity on the part of the caller, to quickly pick moves for everyone that fits the feel of the music. And it feels great when everyone is in tune with each other, working together, even when you make some mistakes.