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Lazy, hard to please or asexual? (feddit.de)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/asexual

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So I'm not sure how to define my sexuality. I only care because I have a hard time explaining it to others (men mostly women don't care).

Basically about 2 years ago I came out as bisexual (50/50 attraction). I had a lot of sexual trauma and resolved it in therapy. I had a whore phase to explore myself, but I honestly don't enjoy sex that much. I maybe cum 1-2/10 times, so mostly it's been about pleasing my partners.

A couple months ago, I basically stopped dating because I kinda don't care to. I find I get much more out of dance and hobbies. I still get horny, but after masturbating, I am back to not caring.

Sex just sounds remarkably unrewarding and too much effort. I like connecting with people, but dancing with someone is way less complicated than arranging sex for the same reward. Friends annoy me sometimes because they assume I'm just not having success.

Is this asexuality? I still sometimes like sex, just very rarely.

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[–] ElectroNeutrino 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm sorry, but it feels like you're reducing sexuality almost entirely down to nothing more than biology, when it's so much more complicated than that.