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What lesson that you didn't see when you were younger and now can see, you would teach to your younger self? (discuss.tchncs.de)

submitted 11 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm in my 20's and I consider myself a complete ignorant, in the sense that whenever I make a decision I always think "What would the future me do if I had more experience/knowledge?"

So taking advantage of this space in Lemmy, what lesson that you had to learn by force or that you learned by experience that when you were younger you didn't see you would teach your younger self?

And I mean lessons like: I must learn to love others, or I am worth more than I think I am.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Oof, the list of hard-earned lessons is long. These two stand out the most:

Deliberately choose and cultivate your relationships. Close friendships and family relationships can be massively beneficial throughout your life.
Money comes and goes, but time only goes. Don't waste time at a job you hate. Actually, don't waste time in general.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Actually, don’t waste time in general.

Or perhaps don't waste time without purpose? Also, it depends on what one considers a "waste of time." A hiking picnic in an idyllic meadow may be worth the time and effort to some, but perhaps not to others. I personally prioritize time with friends and family over other pursuits simply because some of the top complaints people have on their death beds are "worked too much" and "didnt spend enough time with friends/family." However, society doesn't necessarily reward us for prioritizing those, either.

Anyway, as long as you get value out of what you are doing, it is not time wasted.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Agree 100%